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Online Dating Newsletter
Volume 2, Number 4 - April
20, 2005
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Table of Contents
1. From the Editor
2. Creative Date Ideas: Enjoy a Play
Date
3. Online Dating Tips: Put Some Thought
Into Your Username
4. Relationship Tips: Let Go of Resentment
5. Relationship Quote of the Week
6. Inspirational Quote of the Week
7. Romantic Ideas: A Single Rose Among
Many
8. News: Online Dating Study Uncovers
Interesting Findings
9. Feature Link: Avoid Becoming a Professional
Online Dater
10. Online Dating Newsletter Updates
From the Editor
Doing things to always keep your relationship interesting
will make your courtship a memorable one for both
you and your partner. I'm reminded of a past relationship
where the girl - we'll call her "Jen" -
enjoyed creating a theme around gifts she would buy
me for my birthday or Christmas. One year for my
birthday she based her gifts on an "entertainment/movie" theme.
I was presented with a large empty movie popcorn
bucket full of gifts - a DVD of my favorite movie
that had just been released, a booklet of free movie
tickets for the local theater, a bag of movie popcorn,
a box of movie candy (i.e. Junior Mints), a soundtrack
to one of my favorite movies, and a small movie poster
from a film I loved. The gesture, and creative thought
that went into it, was definitely memorable and enjoyable.
Creating a theme around your gift-giving can be a
lot of fun. It may be a bit challenging, but you'll
have fun doing it and your partner will likely appreciate
the thought and effort you went through.
One thing some new couples worry about is their relationship
going "stale". In the beginning, everything
is new and exciting. Then, after a couple of months,
things start to settle into a predictable routine.
To keep your relationship fresh, do things regularly
to introduce new excitement into your relationship.
Exercise your mind by thinking of creative gestures.
This does a great job of building a healthier relationship
that rarely goes stale. And because partners tend to
mimic their significant other's behavior, you may find
some creative ideas being reciprocated for you in the
future. May your relationships be strong,
Joe Tracy, editor
Online
Dating Newsletter
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Creative Date Ideas:
Enjoy a Play Date
Return to childhood for a day by going on a play date
with your partner. For your play date you should select
an activity that would typically be considered something
for kids to enjoy and then go out and enjoy it yourself.
In order for this date idea to work, you and your significant
other have to agree before hand to completely let your
guard down and not worry about what others may think
of you. You have to truly think like a kid and enjoy
being silly, rambunctious, and active.
Great examples of enjoyable play dates include:
» going to a video arcade
» venturing out to a park where you can swing on the swings, climb
the monkey bars, twirl on the merry-go-round and play tag
» visiting a beach to make sand castles and splash in the water.
If you work up an appetite on your play date, make
sure you eat the sugary, greasy foods that kids love
like pizza, ice cream, and candy - you know you still
like it, too!
(SOURCE:
Online Dating Newsletter - www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
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Online Dating Tips:
Put Some Thought Into Your Username
When a person does a search on an online dating service, any one of three things
may jump out at the person to make him/her click to view your profile. The
first is your photo, the second is your headline, and the third (our focus
in this issue) is your username. Your username is an opportunity to tell something
about yourself or create something catchy. For example, let's take a female
named Edna whose passion is watching hockey. Instead of using a username like
edna347 (which is stale) she can quickly let people know about her hockey passion
with a username like hockeygirl or hockeygal (which helps attract the interest
of men who like hockey too). It's also generally a good idea to avoid overused
usernames - ones that have the word "sexy" (i.e. "sexyeyes")
or "cutie" (i.e. "QTpie") in them. Remember that your username
is an opportunity to express something about yourself or your personality.
It's a compliment to receive an email that says, "I really like your username" or "Your
username is intriguing. What does it mean?" Make sure your username can
elicit such an inquiry. (SOURCE: Online Dating
Newsletter - www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
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Relationship Tips:
Let Go of Resentment
It is important to let go of resentment toward your partner in order for your
communication to be effective and your love to grow. If you do not feel resentment
toward your partner you can more easily let go of negative judgments and replace
them with positive judgments. In his book "Men, Women and Relationships:
Making Peace with the Opposite Sex" John Gray explains the negative side
effects of hanging on to resentment and how to let go of that resentment:
"Not only does resentment provoke negative reactions,
but it also negates the effectiveness of communication.
When you share your feelings and thoughts with an attitude
of resentment, it is almost impossible for the person
you are resenting to stay open to you. One of the reasons
communication can be so easy at the beginning of a
relationship is that there is no buildup of resentment.
Accumulated resentment undermines the growth of love
in a relationship. The first step toward releasing
resentment is to claim your responsibility; understand
how you provoke the responses you get. Then, with a
greater understanding of your partner and with better
communication, forgiveness will become easier." (SOURCE:
Men,
Women and Relationships: Making Peace with the Opposite
Sex, by John Gray, Ph.D. - in bookstores everywhere)
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Relationship Quote
of the Week
"Love doesn't make the world go round. Love makes the ride worthwhile." -
Franklin P. Jones
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Inspirational Quote
of the Week
"Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off
your goal." - Henry Ford
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Romantic Ideas:
A Single Rose Among Many
Add a special flair to the traditional gift of a dozen roses. Go to a florist
and buy a dozen roses, 11 red roses, and 1 uniquely colored rose. Roses come
in a variety of colors, make sure you pick a color that stands out from the
red roses, yet compliments the bouquet. Perhaps they have a rose on hand that
is your partner's favorite color? This could add a more personal touch to the
bouquet.
When delivering the bouquet to your loved one tell
her that it is her unique beauty that makes her stand
out from the rest of the crowd and that the single
beautiful rose among the group of red roses is a symbol
of your partner's distinctive beauty. (SOURCE:
Online Dating Newsletter - www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
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News: Online Dating
Study Uncovers Interesting Findings
(April 20, 2005 - onlinedatingnewsletter.com) A recent study by Dr. Jeff Gavin,
of the University of Bath, has revealed several interesting facts about the
online dating industry. The most intriguing discovery of the study is that
online dating has become a much more successful way to find long-term romance
and friendship than was previously thought. The study of online dating service
members found that 94 percent of those surveyed saw their 'e-partner' again
after first meeting them, and the relationships lasted for an average of at
least seven months, with 18 percent of them lasting over a year.
Other findings of the study include:
> men online were significantly more likely to
be committed to the relationship than women and
were more dependent on their 'e-partner'.
> the more the couple engaged in simultaneous
online chat before meeting rather than simply e-mailing
one
another, the more they were found to depend on
one another emotionally and the more they understood
one
another.
> those who exchanged gifts before meeting had
a more committed and deeper relationship.
> the more the couple talked on the telephone
before they met, the deeper the relationship.
> people using the Internet rarely used webcams,
which allow computer users to see one another,
because they preferred the greater anonymity of writing
and
using the telephone.
For the study, Dr Gavin, with Dr Adrian Scott of the
University of Bath and Dr Jill Duffield of the University
of the West of England, carried out an online survey
of 229 people, aged 18 to 65, who have used UK internet
dating sites, asking them about their main relationship
that they had had online. Of the relationships, 39
percent were still going on at the time of the survey,
and of these 24 percent had been going for at least
a year, and eight percent for at least two years. Of
the relationships that had already ended at the time
of the survey, 14 percent had lasted over a year, and
four percent had lasted over two years.
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Feature Link: Avoid
Becoming a Professional Online Dater
Online Dating Magazine coined the phrase "professional
online dater" to describe the growing number of
people becoming "addicted" to online dating
services and using online dating as "an escape
route" out of relationships. At the first sign
of trouble they bolt and, sure enough, within 24 hours
their profile is back online.
Professional online daters are becoming such a large
audience that Online Dating Magazine tapped writer
Julie-Ann Amos to write a feature on "How to Avoid
Becoming a Professional Online Dater." To read the feature article, click
here.
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Online Dating Newsletter
Updates
A new "Clicking Together" cartoon has been uploaded
to the Online Dating Newsletter Website. Click
here to view it.
A new joke has been added to the Online Dating
Newsletter Dating Fun Zone. Click
here to view the
new Dating Jokes section.
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