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Online Dating Newsletter
Volume 1, Number 3 - June 30,
2004
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Table of Contents
1. From the Editor
2. Creative Date Idea: Neon Bowling
3. Online Dating Tip: Filter for More
Desired Results
4. Relationship Tip: Create a Shared
Vision
5. Relationship Quote of the Week
6. Inspirational Quote of the Week
7. Romantic Idea: Love Letter in Luggage
8. News: MingleMatch Uses Color-Coded
Matching System
9. Feature Link: New Trends for Finding
Love Online
From the Editor
This issue of the Online Dating Newsletter contains
one of the best relationship tips you'll ever find.
In the Relationship Tips section you'll read about "shared
visions".
The concept of shared visions is rather simple - as
a couple you set joint goals and dreams that you strive
for on a regular basis. As you complete goals and dreams
you set new ones so that, as a couple, you are always
progressing together towards a goal.
When your relationship has common goals and desires,
then it makes it easier for a couple to grow within
that relationship and remain together. You've heard
that "a couple that prays together, stays together?" Well,
perhaps another appropriate saying is "a couple
that dreams together, remains forever."
Take the time to sit down with your partner and come
up with some joint goals and visions. Things that,
as a couple, you can strive for together. If you are
married, this may be "to buy a home together".
If you have kids it may be "to develop a college
fund". If you're just dating it may be "to
save up for a vacation to Ireland." No matter
what your relationship status is, it is never too early
to begin dreaming. And once you've set your goals,
keep in mind that "obstacles are what you see
when you take your eyes of the goals."
May all your dreams become a reality,
Joe Tracy, editor
Online Dating Newsletter
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Creative Date Idea:
Neon Bowling
A lot of bowling alleys, in a quest to attract more customers,
are offering a
"neon bowling night" where the use of black lights and specially colored
pins and bowling balls (that react to the blacklight) add a new element to the
entire bowling experience. Because this is a unique concept in bowling, it makes
a fun creative date idea giving you and your date some fun things to talk about
while trying to top each other's score. (SOURCE:
Online Dating Newsletter - www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
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Online Dating Tip
of the Week: Filter for More Desired Results
Many people who use online dating services complain about getting emails, messages,
and "winks" from people that they'd never consider dating in a million
years (due to age, location, etc.). There's an easy solution to this problem
- use
your profile as a filter.
To use your profile as a filter, simply state exactly
what you are looking for and make it clear that you
won't respond to people outside of those parameters.
For example, if you know you won't date anyone under
25 or over 35 who is not local, then state prominently
in your profile, "will respond only to those between
the ages of 25 and 35 and within 20 miles of my location".
To help filter who views your profile, you can use
your subject header as a filter - "Interested
only in local 25-35 year old men." Being clear
on what you want will greatly decrease communications
from those not fitting those parameters while providing
you with more desired results. (SOURCE: Online Dating
Newsletter - www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
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Relationship Tip
of the Week: Create a Shared Vision
In the book You,
Inc. the author relates a story of a counselor was interviewed
by Dr. James Dobson over what one key element is apparent in all successful marriages.
The answer? Shared vision.
From the book:
"According to the counselor, one
of the key ingredients to a successful marriage is
a shared vision. The counselor observed that most young
married couples start out dreaming, usually about having
a family and owning their own home. Then, a few years
down the road, they discover they've accomplished those
dreams... and then they make a fatal mistake. They
don't think up new dreams!
Tragically, husbands and wives who stop dreaming together
often start drifting apart. The marriage counselor
concluded his talk with this statement: 'Without exception,
successful married couples have a SHARED VISION they
are always working toward.'"
Be sure to create ongoing shared visions with your
partner to enhance the future of the relationship.
(SOURCE: You,
Inc., by Burke Hedges - in bookstores
everywhere. Note: this is a business book, not
a relationship book).
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Relationship Quote
of the Week
"Self-disclosure by your man is a huge act of trust that reinforces his
feelings of intimacy toward you. Take each revelation as a compliment; a reward
that he has given to you for having already demonstrated some degree of caring.
Remember that whenever your man tells you something that he doesn't ordinarily
disclose, he is watching very closely to see how you react. If he likes what
he sees, he will draw one step closer to making you the ultimate woman in his
life. True emotional closeness comes when you are no longer judging each other's
worth by new data. Once you attain this level of bonding, you will find your
relationship almost indestructible." (SOURCE: Why
Men Won't Commit, by George
Weinberg - in bookstores everywhere)
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Inspirational Quote
of the Week
"The price you will pay for choosing to live a life of mediocrity is much
higher than the price you will pay to enjoy success, prosperity, and happiness." (SOURCE: You,
Inc., by Burke Hedges - in bookstores everywhere)
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Romantic Idea of
the Week: Love Letter in Luggage
One of the tough parts of being in a relationship is when one person has to
go on a trip (i.e. business trip), leaving the other partner behind. If your
partner
is headed off on a trip, make sure that he/she takes a part of you along. How?
Write your partner a love letter - a letter that outlines the things that you
appreciate about him/her and the relationship the two of you share. Seal the
letter and secretly place it in his/her suitcase so that it will be discovered
when
your
partner reaches his/her destination. This letter will have a 1-2 punch. The first
punch is that it will be a surprise - something your partner wasn't expecting.
The second punch is that it contains a list of things you adore about him/her
thus deepening their feelings for you and your thoughtfulness. (SOURCE: Online
Dating Newsletter - www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
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News: MingleMatch
Uses Color-Coded Matching System
(June 30, 2004 - onlinedatingnewsletter.com) Online dating company MingleMatch
is trying a new way to match people, using a color-coded system to show compatibility
between members. The service has been used on several MingleMatch sites for several
months, including Asian
Singles Connection, Single
Parents Mingle, and Christian
Mingle.
According to MingleMatch, "The Color Code Relationship
Profile is generated as participants answer a 45-question
profile. The results of each profile places the individual
in one of four core color groups -- red, white, yellow,
or blue -- with the possibility of a secondary color
of varying strength. An individual is given a detailed
picture of what each color means. Knowing these personality
traits, motivators, and idiosyncrasies creates a higher
level of self-awareness and an understanding of how
to relate to others."
The color-coding system was devised by Dr. Taylor
Hartman and is being used by MingleMatch sites under
an exclusive strategic agreement.
***
Feature Link: New
Trends for Finding Love Online
By Michael Jones
"Love may be all around, but right now, online
dating is booming like never before.
> Some 44 percent of Americans
believe that individuals have a better chance of
meeting a partner online than in a singles bar, according
to Ipsos-Reid, an international market and social
research company.
> The Personals/Dating category
surpassed Business/Investing and Entertainment/Lifestyles
content to become the leading paid content category
in Q3 2002 with $87 million in revenues, a 387 percent
gain over the same quarter the previous year, according
to the Online Publishers Association.
But, just like with dating itself, the numbers don’t
tell the whole story. The question is, “Is there
anything interesting behind the pretty face?”
Thanks to new trends involving technological advancements
along with genuine creativity, there is. In fact, so-called “social
networking” Websites – dating sites in
particular – are on the rise not only in the
area of consumer usage. Of late, the segment has witnessed
a significant infusion of capital, as the industry
progresses toward providing both real interaction online
and the business models to support ongoing online communities.
Nowhere is this more evident than in the online dating
scene. The evolution of Internet dating is not unlike
that of its offline counterpart. From arranged marriages,
to chaperoned courtship, to slightly more freedom to
almost anything goes –- traditional offline dating
progressed from a system that involved knowing hardly
more than name and rank on the wedding day, to the
point at which parties now ask for complete financial
and medical disclosure and can purchase full-scale
background checks over the Internet.
Online dating is following a similar evolutionary
process. Many matchmaking sites compile lists of potential
mates using photos and only the most basic information – age,
gender and location. With this bare-bones “profile,” people
are directed to a list of potential mates – almost
like looking for love in the phone book. In the end,
decisions are made almost exclusively based on a photo..."
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