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Volume 1, Number 3 - June 30, 2004
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Table of Contents
1. From the Editor
2. Creative Date Idea: Neon Bowling
3. Online Dating Tip: Filter for More Desired Results
4. Relationship Tip: Create a Shared Vision
5. Relationship Quote of the Week
6. Inspirational Quote of the Week
7. Romantic Idea: Love Letter in Luggage
8. News: MingleMatch Uses Color-Coded Matching System
9. Feature Link: New Trends for Finding Love Online

From the Editor
This issue of the Online Dating Newsletter contains one of the best relationship tips you'll ever find. In the Relationship Tips section you'll read about "shared visions".

The concept of shared visions is rather simple - as a couple you set joint goals and dreams that you strive for on a regular basis. As you complete goals and dreams you set new ones so that, as a couple, you are always progressing together towards a goal.

When your relationship has common goals and desires, then it makes it easier for a couple to grow within that relationship and remain together. You've heard that "a couple that prays together, stays together?" Well, perhaps another appropriate saying is "a couple that dreams together, remains forever."

Take the time to sit down with your partner and come up with some joint goals and visions. Things that, as a couple, you can strive for together. If you are married, this may be "to buy a home together". If you have kids it may be "to develop a college fund". If you're just dating it may be "to save up for a vacation to Ireland." No matter what your relationship status is, it is never too early to begin dreaming. And once you've set your goals, keep in mind that "obstacles are what you see when you take your eyes of the goals."

May all your dreams become a reality,

Joe Tracy, editor
Online Dating Newsletter


Creative Date Idea: Neon Bowling
A lot of bowling alleys, in a quest to attract more customers, are offering a "neon bowling night" where the use of black lights and specially colored pins and bowling balls (that react to the blacklight) add a new element to the entire bowling experience. Because this is a unique concept in bowling, it makes a fun creative date idea giving you and your date some fun things to talk about while trying to top each other's score. (SOURCE: Online Dating Newsletter -


Online Dating Tip of the Week: Filter for More Desired Results
Many people who use online dating services complain about getting emails, messages, and "winks" from people that they'd never consider dating in a million years (due to age, location, etc.). There's an easy solution to this problem - use your profile as a filter.

To use your profile as a filter, simply state exactly what you are looking for and make it clear that you won't respond to people outside of those parameters. For example, if you know you won't date anyone under 25 or over 35 who is not local, then state prominently in your profile, "will respond only to those between the ages of 25 and 35 and within 20 miles of my location". To help filter who views your profile, you can use your subject header as a filter - "Interested only in local 25-35 year old men." Being clear on what you want will greatly decrease communications from those not fitting those parameters while providing you with more desired results. (SOURCE: Online Dating Newsletter -


Relationship Tip of the Week: Create a Shared Vision
In the book You, Inc. the author relates a story of a counselor was interviewed by Dr. James Dobson over what one key element is apparent in all successful marriages. The answer? Shared vision.

From the book:

"According to the counselor, one of the key ingredients to a successful marriage is a shared vision. The counselor observed that most young married couples start out dreaming, usually about having a family and owning their own home. Then, a few years down the road, they discover they've accomplished those dreams... and then they make a fatal mistake. They don't think up new dreams!

Tragically, husbands and wives who stop dreaming together often start drifting apart. The marriage counselor concluded his talk with this statement: 'Without exception, successful married couples have a SHARED VISION they are always working toward.'"

Be sure to create ongoing shared visions with your partner to enhance the future of the relationship. (SOURCE: You, Inc., by Burke Hedges - in bookstores everywhere. Note: this is a business book, not a relationship book).


Relationship Quote of the Week
"Self-disclosure by your man is a huge act of trust that reinforces his feelings of intimacy toward you. Take each revelation as a compliment; a reward that he has given to you for having already demonstrated some degree of caring. Remember that whenever your man tells you something that he doesn't ordinarily disclose, he is watching very closely to see how you react. If he likes what he sees, he will draw one step closer to making you the ultimate woman in his life. True emotional closeness comes when you are no longer judging each other's worth by new data. Once you attain this level of bonding, you will find your relationship almost indestructible." (SOURCE: Why Men Won't Commit, by George Weinberg - in bookstores everywhere)


Inspirational Quote of the Week
"The price you will pay for choosing to live a life of mediocrity is much higher than the price you will pay to enjoy success, prosperity, and happiness." (SOURCE: You, Inc., by Burke Hedges - in bookstores everywhere)


Romantic Idea of the Week: Love Letter in Luggage
One of the tough parts of being in a relationship is when one person has to go on a trip (i.e. business trip), leaving the other partner behind. If your partner is headed off on a trip, make sure that he/she takes a part of you along. How? Write your partner a love letter - a letter that outlines the things that you appreciate about him/her and the relationship the two of you share. Seal the letter and secretly place it in his/her suitcase so that it will be discovered when your partner reaches his/her destination. This letter will have a 1-2 punch. The first punch is that it will be a surprise - something your partner wasn't expecting. The second punch is that it contains a list of things you adore about him/her thus deepening their feelings for you and your thoughtfulness. (SOURCE: Online Dating Newsletter -


News: MingleMatch Uses Color-Coded Matching System
(June 30, 2004 - Online dating company MingleMatch is trying a new way to match people, using a color-coded system to show compatibility between members. The service has been used on several MingleMatch sites for several months, including Asian Singles Connection, Single Parents Mingle, and Christian Mingle.

According to MingleMatch, "The Color Code Relationship Profile is generated as participants answer a 45-question profile. The results of each profile places the individual in one of four core color groups -- red, white, yellow, or blue -- with the possibility of a secondary color of varying strength. An individual is given a detailed picture of what each color means. Knowing these personality traits, motivators, and idiosyncrasies creates a higher level of self-awareness and an understanding of how to relate to others."

The color-coding system was devised by Dr. Taylor Hartman and is being used by MingleMatch sites under an exclusive strategic agreement.


Feature Link: New Trends for Finding Love Online
By Michael Jones

"Love may be all around, but right now, online dating is booming like never before.

> Some 44 percent of Americans believe that individuals have a better chance of meeting a partner online than in a singles bar, according to Ipsos-Reid, an international market and social research company.

> The Personals/Dating category surpassed Business/Investing and Entertainment/Lifestyles content to become the leading paid content category in Q3 2002 with $87 million in revenues, a 387 percent gain over the same quarter the previous year, according to the Online Publishers Association.

But, just like with dating itself, the numbers don’t tell the whole story. The question is, “Is there anything interesting behind the pretty face?”

Thanks to new trends involving technological advancements along with genuine creativity, there is. In fact, so-called “social networking” Websites – dating sites in particular – are on the rise not only in the area of consumer usage. Of late, the segment has witnessed a significant infusion of capital, as the industry progresses toward providing both real interaction online and the business models to support ongoing online communities.

Nowhere is this more evident than in the online dating scene. The evolution of Internet dating is not unlike that of its offline counterpart. From arranged marriages, to chaperoned courtship, to slightly more freedom to almost anything goes –- traditional offline dating progressed from a system that involved knowing hardly more than name and rank on the wedding day, to the point at which parties now ask for complete financial and medical disclosure and can purchase full-scale background checks over the Internet.

Online dating is following a similar evolutionary process. Many matchmaking sites compile lists of potential mates using photos and only the most basic information – age, gender and location. With this bare-bones “profile,” people are directed to a list of potential mates – almost like looking for love in the phone book. In the end, decisions are made almost exclusively based on a photo..."

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