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Online Dating Newsletter
Volume 1, Number 2 - June 23,
2004
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Table of Contents
1. From the Editor
2. Creative Date Idea: The Surprise
Date
3. Online Dating Tip: Change Picture
and Header Often
4. Relationship Tip: Listen for Clues
5. Relationship Quote of the Week
6. Inspirational Quote of the Week
7. Romantic Idea: Easter Eggs of Love
8. News: Golfing is Newest Online Dating
Niche
9. Feature Link: 12 Keys to Better
Online Dating Communication
From the Editor
Welcome to the second issue of the weekly Online Dating
Newsletter. Every Wednesday, a new issue of the Online
Dating Newsletter is emailed with the latest relationship
and online dating tips, advice, and news. It is our
goal to present ideas that will help build better relationships
and concepts for improving your online dating experience.
When I first got into online dating several years
ago, I met a gal (we'll call her "Ann") who
had mastered the art of being genuinely thoughtful.
I remember that early on in our relationship I was
planning a long drive from California to Idaho to visit
my aging grandmother. Ann knew I was doing the trip
alone, so she set out to make the journey a fun one.
How?
The day I left, Ann presented me with six wrapped
gifts and a note of "instructions". She had
invented a travel game where she calculated that during
my trip I would have to fill up my gas tank six times.
Each time I stopped at a gas station, I was to open
one of the gifts she had given me. Each gift somehow
related to our relationship and there was a self-addressed
stamped postcard in each gift with a kind note and
a question. At each stop I was to answer the question
(about our relationship) she asked on the postcard
and mail the postcard to her. For each question I got
right, I got to keep the gift I was given.
This one thoughtful game made that road trip the best
one I had ever had in my life. There was the continual
anticipation of what would be next and my entire trip
(all 16 hours there and 16 hours back) was spent thinking
about her and what an amazing person she was.
Being thoughtful moves relationships to new levels
and makes experiences unforgettable. It's something
every couple should have the pleasure of experiencing.
Best wishes for dating and relationship success,
Joe Tracy, editor
Online Dating Newsletter
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Creative Date Idea:
The Surprise Date
Most people love surprises and one of the ultimate surprises
you can give your partner is a well-planned secret date.
With a surprise date, your partner knows only the day
and time the date will take place and no other details.
To make the date one to be remembered, try to plan it
around something your partner likes, but rarely gets
to do. For example, perhaps the girl loves musicals,
but hasn't been out to see one in years. A surprise date
to a musical may fill her heart with notes of joy. Perhaps
the guy loves thrills. A surprise trip to a thrill park
(or extreme activity like sky diving) may be just the
ticket.
When planning a surprise date, it is important not
to give any clues whatsoever. The element of surprise
is so much stronger when the person has no idea. The
anticipation alone creates a lot of fun emotions for
the person receiving the surprise.
Surprises during the surprise date are also nice.
You may have a surprise note for each meal that tells
the person something you like about them. The key is
to keep the day fun and full of special moments that
will make it forever memorable. (SOURCE: Online Dating
Newsletter - www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
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Online Dating Tip
of the Week: Change Picture and Header Often
Rotating your picture and subject header are a good way
to keep people looking at your online dating ad. Once a
week, throw up a different picture as your main profile
picture and change your header to a new creative message.
By doing this, you are increasing your exposure and chances
that someone will read your profile, even if it is a person
who may have skipped your profile a week earlier.
Try to be creative or fun with your subject headers
and keep from falling into clichés that other
people use. To see some unique or fun subject headers,
read some of Online
Dating Magazine's Top 10 Lists. It should
give you a creative start to creating new messages.
(SOURCE: Online Dating Newsletter - www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
***
Relationship Tip
of the Week: Listen for Clues
Knowing how to listen is a key ingredient to a successful
relationship. Sometimes that's easier said than done. However,
if you look at listening as a challenge to discover new
ways of surprising the other person, you may find your
power of perception reaching new heights. For example,
I once went on a date with this girl and we talked about
a variety of subjects. She told me that her favorite movie
was The Piano and that she absolutely loved the
music in it, but could never find the soundtrack. After
the date, I went online and, sure enough, the soundtrack
was out of print. But there were still many copies to be
found online, so I purchased one, wrapped it up, and gave
it to her as a gift. By listening carefully to everything
your partner says, you can pick up vital clues as to new
and thoughtful gestures you can introduce into the relationship
to make it that much stronger. (SOURCE: Online Dating Newsletter
- www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
***
Relationship Quote
of the Week
"Many times in relationships that is all it would take to bring healing
and reconciliation - just a word. It might be 'I love you' or 'I'm sorry.'
Usually nothing eloquent or dramatic. The needed word at the right moment,
expressed in love and understanding, can perform miracles." (SOURCE: Quick
to Listen, Slow to Speak, by Robert E. Fisher - in bookstores
everywhere)
***
Inspirational Quote
of the Week
"Belief in great results is the driving force, the power behind all great
books, plays, scientific discoveries. Belief in success is behind every successful
business, church, and political organization. Belief in success is the one basic,
absolutely essential ingredient in successful people. Believe, really believe,
you can succeed and you will." - (SOURCE: The
Magic of Thinking Big, by David J. Schwartz, Ph.D - in bookstores
everywhere)
***
Romantic Idea of
the Week: Easter Eggs of Love
Here's a great unique romantic gesture for you to use at
Easter time. Every Easter, most general stores sell plastic
colored eggs that you can open. There are usually 12 eggs
in four different colors. Buy a set of these eggs and split
them into their colors. Your goal will be to write small
notes that go into each egg, with each color representing
something different. So, for example, the red eggs may
contain a note about something you love about your partner.
The green eggs may contain notes about your favorite memories
with your partner. The yellow eggs can contain things you
appreciate about the relationship. Now hide all 12 eggs
on Easter and have your partner go on an Easter egg hunt
to find them. Your partner will be delighted with the surprise
notes and thought you put into the gesture. - (SOURCE:
Online Dating Newsletter - www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
***
News: Golfing is
Newest Online Dating Niche
(June 23, 2004 - onlinedatingnewsletter.com) There are
online dating services for vegetarians, Christians, pet
lovers, graduates of certain colleges, and even online
dating services only for people who smoke. But the niche
dating sites continue to grow, and one of the newest services
hitting the market is Golfmates.com,
an online dating service dedicated to people who love golfing.
According to Golfmates.com:
"The philosophy behind Golfmates.com is
simple: Golf is the perfect first date. Why? It's a sport men and women can enjoy
playing together. The sport provides an instantaneous icebreaker-a common interest
that two people can discuss. Golf is a relaxing, safe, outdoor activity that
provides ample opportunities for socializing between shots. What is more, after
nine or 18 holes, a round of golf comes to an end-if two people are not compatible,
the end of the round is the end of the date."
Golfmates.com was
officially launched last month.
***
Feature Link: 12
Keys to Better Online Dating Communication
"If you are in the market to find true love online, there are several things
you may want to know about improving the communication process. The following
12 tips below are designed to help you improve the communication you portray
when building your profile, communicating via email, and meeting in person for
the first time:
When Building Your Online Dating Profile
Key #1: Improve Your Matches by Being Clear on
What You Want
The first step to improving the type of communication you receive from others
is by clearly stating in your profile exactly what you want.
Let's take the example of Mary, a 25 year old female
from Phoenix, Arizona. Mary's first profile was pretty
generic, stating a little about herself and that she
was looking for someone fun to get to know better.
Soon Mary's mail box was flooded with messages from
men all around the globe, including Gerald, a 65 year
old retiree from Florida.
The problem for Mary was that because she didn't specify
exactly what she wanted, her profile was left open
to the interpretation of the reader. So she began to
receive a lot of communication from people who she
would never date (due to distance, age, or whatever).
Be clear in your profile about what you are looking
for in order to weed out others. If Mary only wants
to date local men who are within 3 years of her age
then she should clearly state:
"I'm interested only in communicating with 22-28
year old men who live within 20 miles of Phoenix, Arizona."
While many men will deem themselves the "exception" to
Mary's new rule, others will fully respect what she
is looking for and leave her alone if they do not fit
into that category.
Be very clear about what you want.
Key #2: Use Subject Header as a Filter
If you can't think of anything to say in your profile subject header that many
sites require, then use it as a filter. Let's go back to our Mary example.
She has already clearly stated in her profile the type of person she wants
to communicate with. Yet some men apparently don't know how to read when
it comes to profiles. Therefore the subject header is a good place to reemphasize
what you're looking for. Here's an example Mary might use:
"Looking to chat with men near Phoenix, 22-28
years old"
Now Mary is using one of the most visual parts of
her profile - the subject header - to let men know
which ones should continue reading and which ones should
move on.
Of course, creative types may still want to use the
subject header to show their creative or funny side..."
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