Flirtologist Gives Some Flirting Advice

(onlinedatingmagazine.com - April 20, 2004) Singles connect at everyday places by starting positive conversations, says Jill Spiegel, who describes herself as a Flirtologist.

Landing dates happens while waiting in line, getting a haircut, volunteering, or visiting a dog park, says Spiegel, who conducts flirting seminars and is author of the newly released The Flirtologist's Guide To Dating.

"There are 100 million singles in the U.S., and yet singles say it's hard to find dates. Our lifestyle can be a natural dating service when we stay alert to the people around us and connect through common topics," says Spiegel. "There is a myth that meeting singles and flirting is about being clever or witty. The truth is the top three qualities people look for in a first impression are warmth, genuineness and empathy, so think friendly when it comes to flirting."

When initiating conversations, Spiegel recommends saying something positive even if it's about the weather. Or pay a sincere compliment. Or ask a question -- people love to give their opinion. She also suggests you can be gentle and direct by admitting to someone you are nervous. That breaks the ice. Tell them you would regret not saying something.

"These gestures are honest and engaging," says Spiegel who became a Flirtologist to share the magic of flirting.

More of her flirting tips:

1) Be a playful flirt. Smile at people like they are old friends.

2) Be a polite flirt. Instead of asking for someone's number, give them yours and tell them a good time to reach you.

3) Be a confident flirt. If someone doesn't call you, tell yourself you are desirable and that person wasn't the right person for you.

Spiegel says, "Life is your 24-hour dating service. Reach out and flirt today!"

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