DatingMashup.com


 
Bookmark and Share

Online Dating Magazine > Columns > Jennifer's Gems > Partner Potential


JENNIFER'S GEMS
by Jennifer Brown Banks

Good "Partner Potential"
Do You Have It?

"You can tell a lot about others by the company they keep" ~ anonymous

I was listening to WVON Radio recently, when I overheard bachelors bemoaning how difficult it is to find the woman of their dreams.  This common complaint strikes me as unusual, given the ratio of women to men in the Black community.

What I find to be the culprit, quite often, is the criteria these men use to measure whether a woman is considered good partner potential.  For example, if a man places great emphasis on whether a woman wears designer clothes, has a French manicure, or is perfectly packaged, then he shouldn’t be surprised if this “vision of loveliness” fails to stimulate him mentally, has diva like tendencies, or is a gold-digger.

 

When you choose “glitter over substance”, in matters of the heart, many times it has the impact of a fast food meal---quick and inviting, but with no real value or sustenance.

The same concept rings true with women who go for guys based upon the money they make, their careers, or the cars they drive. The search for a “quality” mate must be approached with maturity, realistic expectations, and a mindset of what constitutes “quality” choices.

Are you quality company? 

How do you measure as a potential mate? 

Take our quiz to find out. 

Answer yes or no to the following questions, as each applies to you and your characteristics.

1) Would most people consider you to be a good conversationalist? 
YES | NO

2) Are you neat and presentable in appearance?
YES | NO

3) Do you have a good sense of humor?
YES | NO

4) Do you have any interests outside of work?
YES | NO

5) Would most people consider you to have integrity?
YES | NO

6)  If you’re a woman, can you cook?  A man--- Can you fix things around the house?
YES | NO

7) Are you a person of your word?
YES | NO

8) Can you be trusted to keep the confidences of others?
YES | NO

9) Are you “passionate” about life?
YES | NO

10) Are you currently dealing with any “baby mama” or “baby daddy drama”?
YES | NO

11) Would others consider you a workaholic?
YES | NO

12) Do you have good self-esteem?
YES | NO

13) Have you ever been in a long-term relationship before (over 1 year)?
YES | NO

14) Do you exercise good judgment in personal and professional affairs?
YES | NO

15)  Have you read any good books lately?
YES | NO

16) Are you bitter based upon previous relationships?
YES | NO

17)  Is your home (or bachelor’s pad) clean and inviting?
YES | NO

18) Are you able to compromise when it comes to relationships?
YES | NO

19) Do you truly feel that you deserve a good relationship?
YES | NO

20) Do you practice the “Golden Rule”?
YES | NO

If you answered yes to 15 or more of the above questions, you have good partner potential!  If you answered yes to less than 15, perhaps you might want to address some self-improvement issues.   Realistically speaking, we shouldn’t expect from others what we fail to possess ourselves.

HERE ARE A FEW WAYS TO EXPAND YOUR DIMENSIONS OF DESIRABILITY.

» Be yourself. 
The more comfortable you are with who you are, the greater the likelihood that others will be as well.  Never compare or compete.

» Be well rounded. 
Expand your horizons.  Read different authors, tune into different music, try different foods, have associates from different cultures.  It will enrich your life and enhance your interactions with others.  For the guys, learn some salsa, or a few new dance moves to take your lovely lady “out on the town!”

» Get rid of the “excess baggage”. 
In the words of the Neville Brothers—“Everybody plays the fool sometimes.”  Get over it and move on.

» Be optimistic and inviting. 
In dating and mating personality counts!

» Put as much emphasis on your “core components” as you do your outer packaging.

» Never underestimate the importance of a good sense of humor. 
It’s a very desirable trait.

» Learn the art of effective listening. 
Be “interested” as well as “interesting”.

» Be a good conversationalist.
Don’t gossip; have intelligent ideas and engaging issues on which to speak.

By following these tips you’ll be a “mate magnet” in no time!


 


>
Perfectmatch.com - The best approach to find the one. <


All Online Dating Magazine content, including the content on this page,
is © copyright by Online Dating Magazine and may not be
republished or reused in any form. You do have
full permission to link to this article.

Do you agree or disagree with this article? Have
more to add? Submit a Letter to the Editor today or post a comment below.


 


Jennifer's Gems is a weekly column written by award-winning poet and writer, Jennifer Brown Banks. It is published every Wednesday. Click here to read her welcome letter.


blog comments powered by Disqus


Privacy Statement | Code of Ethics Statement
Bookmark Online Dating Magazine at Del.icio.us

>View Online Dating Magazine Singles Travel Adventures<

Online Dating | News | Columns | Features | Dating Services | Niche Dating
Online Dating Directory | Dating Humor | Quick Tip Articles | Online Dating Industry
Industry History
| Online Dating Reviews | Reader Reviews | Dating Videos | Book / DVD Reviews
Reader Letters | Self Improvement | Experiences | Newsletter | Interviews
Top 10 Lists | STD Info Center | About Us | Advertise
Media Center
| FAQ | Search | Contact | Dating Promotions

Dating Cartoons | Dating Jokes | Funny Dating Videos | Dating Games

Online Dating Magazine Needs Your Help!

All content on this Website is ©copyright by Online
Dating Magazine. All Rights Reserved. The content
on this site may not be reused or republished.

Are you an online dating site Webmaster? If so...
If you are looking for free dating content you can republish, click here

 

 



Advertise on
Online Dating Magazine



Menu:

 

Stay Up to Date:

Follow Us on Twitter

Follow Us on YouTube

Follow Us on Facebook

 


10 Most Viewed Articles:

Online Dating Tips
Opposites Attract
Online Dating Safety Tips
Rose Colors
Guys are Weird
Dating Games
Online Dating Reviews
Creative Date Ideas
Long Distance Relationships
Dealing with a Breakup

Other Resources:

These links will take you away from Online Dating Magazine.

Google (Google Your Date)
BBB (
Research Dating Service)

MailOrderBride Guide

Note: Online Dating Magazine does not sell text links anywhere on the site, so please don't email asking about text links. Any links we have are affiliate links, resources we find useful, links to other sites we run or long-time magazine sponsors. We do have graphic ad options in our Advertising section.