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Stay Away From Emotional Vampires
45 year old female from Australia

It’s a shame that some men online use, abuse, deceive, and seduce decent people. I don't think 'everyone' is all that, but my experiences haven't been good.

The first man was a male model who sent poetry, promised love, dedication etc, then up went the red flags when he wanted to send me a mail order for me to cash in my bank account.

The second man I communicated with for eight months; phone calls, chat and emails and was going to marry until I found out he was cheating or cyber sexing with other woman online. I found out through a friend who he hit on. Nice!

The third man fell in love with me within a week with a marriage proposal not long after. He seemed the real deal, after communicating for six months, until he told me that one of us would die if we didn't meet within the year. Yeah right, good one!

The fourth was really different. Spent eight months emailing me, with not a phone call or chat. Had me in hook line and sinker emotionally and basically mind played me, like I have never experienced before. He had a very smooth and powerful way with words. An expert! It felt like I was under spell at the time. He very quickly moved on to the next "love of his life, Queen, Princess, (gag, I hate those lines), which he displayed in front of me , so to speak, when I confronted him on some offensive writings. Heartless! However silly me for not listening to the Big Red Flag in the beginning in his profile which said. "Not looking for someone for 'just' sex, but to masturbate one's mind.' Well, well that’s exactly what he did. Maybe I was naive at the time and didn't fully understand what he was implying. I can't believe I missed that one.

I still don't give up hope either way of finding a decent man. If anything it has taught me a lot about myself and about what to look out for - whether in real life or online. However one has to be very, very careful and to always follow their gut instinct, even the slightest one. Life is way too short and it’s a waste of time being seduced by some of these emotional vampires. Harsh word but true!

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