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Online Dating Experience 17
The Problem with Online Dating Services
37 year
old male from California My experiences can really be called three
experiences in one. I've tried numerous online dating
services; it doesn't matter which name they go by.
LavaLife, Match.com, you name it, they're basically
all the same. When I tried eHarmony.com , for instance,
I only got ONE match... she was 20 miles from me, and
I live in a city of 10 million people! I decided right
then and there to cancel and get my money back without
even waiting for the woman's reply, because I was so
turned off by this.
Second experience... my eyes were opened when all
the women I've asked about it, agreed that when they
were girls, their parents told them "never pick
the man, always let him pick you". Great advice
if you live in some male-dominated Third World country,
but it doesn't work so well in the USA, where nobody
has time to go out at night, hitting on strangers.
This is why so many more men than women join dating
services... the services themselves have long realized
this, and that's why they have degenerated into little
more than pyramid schemes which stay in business because
of "losers". These are men who have not lost
at the game of life, they are just greenhorns who have
fallen for the whole dating scam and they haven't opened
their eyes to how it works. Because if they did, that
would be the end of the dating industry.
Third, if I couldn't count on the dating services
for a mate, what was I supposed to do? Going out to
clubs and hitting on women every night, doesn't pay
the bills. I took the drastic step of creating what
I call a "mate search site", which is something
like a resume except it's not work-related. I've always
wanted to be a loving husband, who would treat his
wife with respect and dignity... but that's the problem
with dating services, most of the people who use them
don't expect to be treated decently. Knowing this,
I'd never join a dating service, even if 99% of their
clients were women and the memberships were free. Incidentally,
I haven't really been making a full effort to promote
my mate search site, but nevertheless a few women have
stumbled across it and sent me very nice e-mails, saying
how well-written it is. I will not divulge the name
of my site in this message... but if you look hard
enough online for it, you will find it.
Society is still in the process of learning how to
use the Internet to find mates. I believe when most
of us finally figure out a method that works, the dating
service industry is going to find itself struggling
to survive. My 2 cents.
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