Internet Dating Deception

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Online Dating Experience 05
Internet Dating Deception
25 year old female from California

Editor's Note
This is the third of four consecutive online dating experiences shared by "Polly". Her experiences are numbers 3, 4, 5, and 6 in the Online Dating Experiences section.

As you all know, the traverse of the Internet dating scene has left much to be desired. I do have a good story however about the longest e-relationship I have ever had.

Last summer (at the height of my e-dating ), I met a very nice man in Colorado on the internet. We e-chatted for two months before I gave him my number. In these e-chats, we discussed life, liberty and the pursuit of one another. We had a lovely time and chatted into the night.

Two months in, I gave him my number and we continued our pseudo-courting by phone. We enjoyed each other’s company and instead of the online late night chats, we spoke on the phone late into the night.

He promised me the world and offered to fly me to Colorado so I could help him run his new bar. I was very impressed, however I played hard to get. Imagine, Polly, running willy nilly to Colorado for some man she has never met in person. This, however, was not an issue for him.

We spoke for months and months. Every time he kept begging me to come to Colorado and I kept saying no. As time went on, I realized that it made him only try harder when I said no. Hmmmmmmmm.

After the first 3 months of actual live phone chat, he explained to me that he does not really own a bar. He in fact did not own anything. He lived with his parents (not a big deal) but he was 35 and his parents restricted his phone use and grounded him (still). Ok, a little weird, but not insurmountable. Then the ball dropped.

He gave me the ultimatum. He said if I did not come to Colorado and live with him (and his parents, ha ha), he no longer wanted to have any sort of relationship with me. I said (in true Polly style) Good-Bye.

The moral of today’s story ladies and jelly-spoons, is that the Internet can breed the exact same problems the bar scene can. Remember that someone cannot see that you are joking about certain subjects (as there is no way to show emotion and emot-icons don’t do the trick) and that people from different places have different meanings for different words.

That being said, watch what you say to whom, and remember not to take anything from someone you meet this way, that you would not take from someone you meet in your daily life.

I am hopeful that this will not repeat itself. I enjoyed my time with this man, but it came to an end. I hope that you (and I) have learned from this experience and that we will all be as careful and wary of our cyber-surroundings as we do in our daily surroundings.

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