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Dating Triumphs and Tragedies
by Nicole
Roberge
Looking
for Love in All MySpaces
I
recently saw the film “The Holiday,” and
as Ms. Winslet and Ms. Diaz logged online to swap
houses for the holidays, after being plagued by romance
woes, it got me thinking about how the Internet,
not just by means of “online dating,” can
spark romance.
The
connection these women made over the Internet caused
them to swap houses and eventually they met men via
their change of location, but there are many different
avenues out there to meet people online that could
bring about friendship, dating, and possibly love,
that we might not even think about.
Okay,
so yes, I do own both the video and DVD of “You’ve
Got Mail,” but I am serious.
Let’s
talk about the surge of something like MySpace, for example.
A place where everybody knows your name…or
at least whether you’re there for networking, dating,
serious relationships or friends. And speaking of friends,
they can also find how many “friends” you
have, and then find out about your friends and what “comments” they
have to say about you. Your body type, zodiac sign, whether
or not you want children, even your song of choice can
be playing, all with the click of a button. It’s
like you, only if the viewer decides he or she isn’t
interested, he can just click the little X box. Much
easier than coming up with some excuse as to why he is
no longer interested. If only it were that simple in
real life.
MySpace
is generally a new way to meet someone. You can search
for them in your own way, or keep finding them via
other friends, friends of friends, interests, bands,
location, search term, etc. Or if you’re
bored and just hanging around MySpace (yes, I know the
type), you may just stumble upon someone who peaks your
interest, and once you click to add them as a friend,
you never know what could happen from there.
In
a way, places like MySpace give
you much more insight into a potential partner, which
can be a good thing or a bad thing. The “Friends” portion for example.
When you find that someone who you may want to become
more acquainted with, or someone you have already started
dating, you may want to know a little more about them.
And who knows them better than their friends?
But
of course in “real life,” when you meet their
friends, they will play them up as the best friend ever,
because that’s what they are, and they want their
buddy to look good for their new girl. Then, later on,
once the relationship is established, they can joke around
about what a loser they are. But suppose you want to
cut to the chase. You want to know the “real him” a
little bit earlier on…
You
can get the real deal on his MySpace. It’s his real life in an odd sort
of way, in the form of his comments section. That thin
row of boxes where his friends leave little notes for
him. Maybe one says, “Dude, you were so loaded
last night. Remember when you puked in your purse?”
Then
you can step back from the computer and say a) maybe
he drinks too much for me, b) his friends act like
frat boys, c) why does he carry a purse or d) my
kind of guy! Then message him to hit the bar.
Or
maybe you’re
a pro at MySpace stalking.
You can reverse stalk him by seeing what he says to
his friends. Like he tells them, after his friend invites
him to a party this weekend, “Thanks
for the invite, but I’m taking my nephew to a baseball
game.” Then you’re so busy swooning you
forget to sign out and it looks like you’ve been “Online
Now!” on MySpace for
36 hours. Loser. Just kidding.
But
the Internet is in fact a great resource to utilize
for meeting people. By now, you’ve already Googled
him, so let’s kick it up a notch. People wouldn’t
put themselves out there if they didn’t want
to be found, right? So what are you waiting for? There
are many spaces to be searched. And while you’re
at it, put a little page together for yourself. You
never know who is looking for you while you’re
looking for someone else.
Dating Triumphs and Tragedies is published every Sunday by Online
Dating Magazine columnist Nicole
Roberge. She can be reached at NicoleMRoberge@hotmail.com.
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