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Dating From the Inside Out
by Susan S. Davis

Practical Intuition Strategy

A lot has been said about following instincts and using natural, intuitive impulses in daily life, that reference conceptual thought as a means to strive to understand what motivates action, in connection with insight.

Since everyone has basic hunches, ideas, insights and inspiration, there is no doubt that intuition can be a powerful tool, and one of the most valuable methods for self improvement and success in life. In fact, intuition, at its core, can be beneficial for just about any endeavor, and interpersonal relationships are no exception.

In fact, for matters of the heart, and anything involving spirituality, tapping into one’s intuition can reap benefits that may never otherwise have been realized through conventional methods. This could be because the raw sort of psychic data that gets stored within our minds, can itself be based on actual facts, and is filed away just below the conscious level.


Intuitive impulses are often those that cannot be explained – and usually, we have no idea where they come from. A common scenario, is feeling as though there is an issue we are “stuck” on – something that just doesn’t seem to be workable to deal with, or a situation that defies logic or factual explanation. There doesn’t seem to be a conclusion, and we just don’t know what to do.

It can also be very common to get an idea out of nowhere that makes no sense at all – and no amount of analysis is able to determine its origin. This can happen when it is least expected, often when we are in a relaxed state, or our minds are on something else. Because of this, we sometimes ignore insights and ideas that may well be answers or solutions to some of the problems that we face on a daily basis.

The subconscious mind is most likely the place of origin for much of intuition. Past research has concluded that the subconscious mind actually stores and has access to everything that we have seen, heard and come across in our entire lives, almost like a twenty-four hour recording. However, because much of this data is never even registered in the conscious mind, it never gets used in present time. Our conscious mind usually only absorbs those things that we actively pay attention to. Insights generally come from the application of life knowledge to the current events that confront us daily.

Human beings are all born with intuition intact, and it can be used to guide from a very early stage. Ever notice how children seem to instinctively sense things? They are so young that they have not yet learned to disregard their intuition, the way that more mature people do. Over the years, people can lose touch with the ability to allow intuition to be a guide and ally.

There are basic techniques that can be learned from brain enhancement researchers that can help us use the power of the subconscious mind. If we were to fully utilize what our subconscious minds offer, there is a chance that we could greatly increase our mental capabilities.

Intuition, otherwise known as “gut” feelings, are always available to tap into; it is merely a matter of trusting what is known to be true, at the deepest level, and what is felt will guide one in the right direction. For example, how many times have you had a strong feeling about an activity, person or something in general, and it turned out exactly as you had predicted?

If you’ve ever met someone and knew immediately whether or not to pursue a friendship or relationship, then you will most likely know what it is like to have an intuitive impulse. These intuitions can serve to provide a sort of guidance forward in life. It’s really a choice of listening to the voice of fear, or trusting the voice that usually always supports our best interests, at their core. Intuition will usually steer one in the right direction, because it is non-judgmental and “bipartisan” in its essence. Used as an ally, it can sometimes serve to make life easier and a little less complicated.

Below are some strategies to help recognize and use intuitive impulses to be used to the best advantage, when it comes to meeting new people:

1. Confront the Past - Firstly, see if you can remember times in the past when you listened to your intuition. Are there any times that you regret not listening to your intuition? Try listing out things that you accomplished by listening to your gut. Is there anything that you can learn from the past? If you create a list of all the major highlights in your life associated with intuition, it will probably include many situations where you either followed, or wish you had followed, gut instincts. See if you can remember people that you had wanted to talk to in public, either newly, or those you may not have followed up with, for whatever reason. Chances are, there will be a few people that you refrained from approaching. That’s an example of how people sometimes let their fears take over unnecessarily.

2. Highlight General Awareness – For a week, see if you can try to become more aware and conscious of all of your surroundings. In all aspects of your life, from work to family to relationships, be aware of what you are actually feeling, including both negative and positive aspects. Write down what the feeling comprises. When a new activity, or project surfaces, make a note of where it takes you mentally and spiritually. When you encounter new people in public, try smiling at them for starters. If the response is good, really look at what the situation is – and if the person seems open to it, perhaps make a comment about something that is happening around you; or ask for some type of information.

3. Try to be Fearless – Every time you find that you must make a decision, see if you can decide whether that decision’s origin is from fear or intuition. Because fear is far more judgmental and motivated by doubt, intuition, in its purity, is less negative, more supportive and calming. If you focus on making decisions based on how you truly feel, rather than what fear may warrant, you will experience less doubt about your abilities – particularly those that deal with meeting new people. If you make a concerted effort to try the tactics above, you may find that it is much easier to begin to allow new acquaintances into your life.

The above are just some of the ways that we can use to begin to find a road into how to better use intuition to develop new friendships. In fact, just by being aware of the possibilities, a whole new social chapter of a life can begin.

There are basic techniques that can be learned from brain enhancement researchers that can help us use the power of the subconscious mind. If we were to fully utilize what our subconscious minds offer, there is a chance that we could greatly increase our mental capabilities. By paying more attention to our hunches, we can use otherwise untapped resources, for betterment in many parts of our lives, including and especially, our personal relationships. For example, the next time a situation arises where you have the chance to act on your intuition in terms of meeting someone new, try it and see what happens. You never know – it may help to find some really worthwhile new friends.

Susan S. Davis is a published book author and writer, currently doing research for a romantic screenplay she is writing. Her Dating From The Inside Out column is published every Tuesday.

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