Lonely, Beautiful People

I’m not a big talk-show fan. However, the other night I was flipping channels, and an interview caught my attention. It was Ryan Seacrest and Tyra Banks on E! Each enough in their own right to catch your eye; both are very beautiful people.

Ryan was interviewing Tyra over dinner. He made a comment that a lot of guys probably don’t know what to do with her when they attempt to date her. Do they call, do they not call? She confessed, “They don’t know I’m looking at the phone all day going, ‘You gonna call me?’” She shared with Ryan how hard it was to meet someone.

If Tyra Banks is having a hard time meeting someone special – do we even have a chance?

Isn’t that the way most people think? People have a tendency to believe that attractive singles have it made. People seem to think a beautiful person always has a date, is alone only by choice, and has no relationship problems. Yet many highly attractive, intelligent, and stable singles are crying out – like Tyra – “You gonna call me?”

What keeps people from approaching these gems? It’s simple: The fear of rejection. What about you – when you see a beautiful person you are attracted to, do you approach them and initiate a conversation? Or do you hear that inner voice that says:

» “They probably already have a partner.”

» “They’ll probably just say ‘no’ anyway.”

» “I’ll look foolish.”

» “They probably don’t even know I exist.”

» “I won’t know what to say.”

Terrified you will mess up, do you just walk away? You may have missed out on a great chance to make a new friend.

That beautiful girl, or striking man, is most likely someone like you – who longs to make a connection with the right person. When did society place stunning people in a separate league? No wonder they are statistically some of the loneliest people on the planet.

Even if you’re ‘Joe Average’, you can equip yourself for the challenge of meeting a person of beauty. If you have a solid foundation, you have a lot to offer. The majority of men and women need more than extreme beauty to maintain a relationship. Some of the most critical aspects you can bring to the relationship are:

» Character: Are you a person of positive features and traits?

» Honesty: Are you upright, fair, and truthful? Are you free from deceit?

» Integrity: Do you adhere to moral and ethical principles? Are you fair?

» Ambition: Do you have an earnest desire to achieve something greater in life?

» Levity: Do you have a sense of humor? Are you light-hearted?

» Credibility: Are you worthy of being believed?

» Trust: Can you confidently be relied on?

» Faithfulness: Are you true to your promises?

» Compassion: Do you feel sympathy for the misfortunate?

Preparation to meet this beautiful person began long before you ran into her or him. Take stock in who you are as a person. This is the ammunition that quiets the inner voice of fear when opportunity presents itself to meet someone new.

Also, one of the greatest things you can offer someone – regardless of their looks – is a listening ear. Who doesn’t like attention?

» Don’t make it all about you.

» Don’t worry so much about what the person’s reply is going to be.

» Introduce yourself, and take the time to find out more about the other person.

» Don’t judge them by their appearance; you have to get to know the person inside.

» The only way to do that is to strike up a conversation.

Remember, we’ve all been thrown on this huge planet together. Beautiful, attractive, or average people — most of us like to have fun and meet new people. Don’t let fear hold you back. So, you gonna call, or what?!

Jo Ann Fore welcomes your comments about this article or suggestions for material you would like to see in future articles. Email her at: JoAnnFore@msn.com. A Better You is published every Saturday.

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