Humor vs. Reality – Technology Assist
Millions of people use online dating services to help find a potential soul-mate. And for some they believe that because they searched for love online, they can deliver important messages the same way. It’s important to realize that technology is not appropriate to use in order to deliver a highly personal or sensitive message to someone you are in a relationship with. Believe it or not, we’ve heard of people:
1) Breaking up with someone else via text message.
2) Saying “I love you” for the first time via email.
3) Asking someone to be boyfriend/girlfriend via email.
4) Proposing marriage via email.
5) Breaking up simply by changing their Facebook status.
It’s important to remember that the computer is still an impersonal means of delivering important deeply personal messages. If you are going to break up with someone, it is only appropriate to do so in person (or… to some degree… by phone). It’s very impersonal to say “I Love You” for the first time without looking the person in the eyes. It’s not alright to propose to someone via email unless it is part of some very elaborate and creative plan you are executing (i.e. see the creative proposal done by one person below). It is appropriate to use email/technology to help set up an elaborate proposal (see second flash mob video below) that will be delivered in person.
The key here is to remember that very personal information needs to still be delivered in person. We are not androids (yet), but living people that still require some degree of interpersonal communication to thrive.
Unique Movie Theater Marriage Proposal
Flash Mob Marriage Proposal