There is a saying that “you never get a second chance to make a good first impression.” With that in mind, it is vital to be fully prepared to make a great impression on each date you go on. Here are 10 tips for men on dating success and making an impression that will last.
1. Take a Bath or Shower
One of the worst things you could do when going out on a date (especially if it is your first date) is to turn up unshaven, looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the species and will partly judge you on how hygienic you are. After all, you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a mutt dog with tangled fur that hadn’t bathed for days.
It doesn’t cost anything to take a bath and to make an effort to look and smell nice. Remember, bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are all the time even if you are just having a bad day. As a result, she won’t be able to see beyond your appearance. So be sure to shower, shave, and look your best.
2. Arrive on Time
Whatever you do, don’t turn up late. Turning up late will send out all the wrong messages and make a terrible first impression. At first she may think she’s been stood up, but after arriving late her opinion will change to you being unreliable or not caring enough about her to be on time. If you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable to turn up five minute before you are due. Any earlier and you might catch her still getting ready. Five minutes early is the earliest you should arrive. But never be late.
3. Give Her a Thoughtful Gift
This tip is only appropriate for the first date if you’ve communicated for several months online before meeting. If your first date was planned in less than a month, then there’s no reason for you to present her with a gift. In general, the third or fourth date is a good time to present a gift.
Gifts like flowers or chocolate, while appropriate, don’t contain any real “thought” on your part. Keep in mind that a woman feels special when the man she is with gives her a thoughtful gift. What is a thoughtful gift? Well, you obvious know some things about a woman before the date that came from phone conversations, emails, other dates with her (if this isn’t your first date), etc. Take what you know and buy her an appropriate date gift. For example, let’s say that the woman really likes golf. There are companies that make chocolate golf sets – a miniature chocolate club with a chocolate tee and chocolate golf ball. This would make a great gift that she’ll know you put thought into. Don’t go overboard, but do let your gift show that you pay attention.
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4. Be a Gentleman
Hold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first, pull her chair, and be polite to her along with the people around you. Women like to feel special and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic. And when she sees you treat others with respect, her respect for you will grow.
5. Compliment Her
A woman loves to be complimented, to feel beautiful, and to think you are attracted to her. So be sure to drop 3-4 compliments throughout your date. The first appropriate compliment can come right when you see each other – “wow, you look really nice.” If you compliment too much it will become annoying and ineffective. So don’t go overboard. Be sincere and observant.
6. Listen to Her and Ask Questions
Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. A woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say. Spend a lot more time asking her questions and letting her talk than talking yourself.
7. Prepare for the Conversation
The last thing you want is to be sitting at a meal with nothing to talk about. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her. You may think that it is easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions to ask or that you will automatically have the answers but until you are in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. Avoid talking about past relationships or other women while on the date. Keep your focus, attention, and conversation fully on her. Be sure to review her profile and your past communications for some conversation ideas.
8. Pay for the Date
It’s virtually always appropriate for a gentleman to offer to pay for the date. When a man takes it upon himself to pay for the date, he is displaying that old act of “chivalry” that is missing from many men these days. However, some women feel more comfortable going “dutch” and if she insists on this, then don’t resist. To avoid awkwardness, make sure you let her know before the date that you plan on paying for it.
9. The Goodnight Kiss
Some women prefer not to kiss after a first date, while others may be disappointed if the guy doesn’t even try. There is no easy answer to this question. Body language and chemistry throughout the night is key in the decision you make. If it feels right, then you may want to consider making the move. If it doesn’t feel right then a friendly hug may be more appropriate.
10. Be Confident
The best tip we have saved for last. Women love it when a man is confident. Confidence means that you find it easy to express yourself, show off your sense of humor, and be yourself in a pleasant and assured way. Being confident means that if you enjoyed the date you are not afraid to ask her out on a second date. It means if you tell her you will call her that you will do so. Some may think that you either do or do not have confidence, but the fact is that confidence can be learned. The definition of confidence is, “a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.” This is something you can learn to project and should practice every day.
Have fun on your date, be yourself, and use the above tips to make the experience a more enjoyable one for both you and your date.
Women, do you agree with this list? Do you have more tips to add? Please post your comments in the Comment section below.
Men – before you head out on that date, be sure to review these 10 dating tips for men that will help you make that vital first impression…