10 Dating Tips for Men

There is a saying that “you never get a second chance to make a good first impression.” With that in mind, it is vital to be fully prepared to make a great impression on each date you go on. Here are 10 tips for men on dating success and making an impression that will last.

1. Take a Bath or Shower
One of the worst things you could do when going out on a date (especially if it is your first date) is to turn up unshaven, looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the species and will partly judge you on how hygienic you are. After all, you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a mutt dog with tangled fur that hadn’t bathed for days.

It doesn’t cost anything to take a bath and to make an effort to look and smell nice. Remember, bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are all the time even if you are just having a bad day. As a result, she won’t be able to see beyond your appearance. So be sure to shower, shave, and look your best.

You never get a second chance to make a good first impression

You never get a second chance to make a good first impression

2. Arrive on Time
Whatever you do, don’t turn up late. Turning up late will send out all the wrong messages and make a terrible first impression. At first she may think she’s been stood up, but after arriving late her opinion will change to you being unreliable or not caring enough about her to be on time. If you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable to turn up five minute before you are due. Any earlier and you might catch her still getting ready. Five minutes early is the earliest you should arrive. But never be late.

3. Give Her a Thoughtful Gift
This tip is only appropriate for the first date if you’ve communicated for several months online before meeting. If your first date was planned in less than a month, then there’s no reason for you to present her with a gift. In general, the third or fourth date is a good time to present a gift.

Gifts like flowers or chocolate, while appropriate, don’t contain any real “thought” on your part. Keep in mind that a woman feels special when the man she is with gives her a thoughtful gift. What is a thoughtful gift? Well, you obvious know some things about a woman before the date that came from phone conversations, emails, other dates with her (if this isn’t your first date), etc. Take what you know and buy her an appropriate date gift. For example, let’s say that the woman really likes golf. There are companies that make chocolate golf sets – a miniature chocolate club with a chocolate tee and chocolate golf ball. This would make a great gift that she’ll know you put thought into. Don’t go overboard, but do let your gift show that you pay attention.

SEE ALSO: Bad Gift Ideas for Her

4. Be a Gentleman
Hold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first, pull her chair, and be polite to her along with the people around you. Women like to feel special and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic. And when she sees you treat others with respect, her respect for you will grow.

5. Compliment Her
A woman loves to be complimented, to feel beautiful, and to think you  are attracted to her. So be sure to drop 3-4 compliments throughout your date. The first appropriate compliment can come right when you see each other – “wow, you look really nice.” If you compliment too much it will become annoying and ineffective. So don’t go overboard. Be sincere and observant.

6. Listen to Her and Ask Questions
Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. A woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say. Spend a lot more time asking her questions and letting her talk than talking yourself.

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7. Prepare for the Conversation
The last thing you want is to be sitting at a meal with nothing to talk about. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her. You may think that it is easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions to ask or that you will automatically have the answers but until you are in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. Avoid talking about past relationships or other women while on the date. Keep your focus, attention, and conversation fully on her. Be sure to review her profile and your past communications for some conversation ideas.

8. Pay for the Date
It’s virtually always appropriate for a gentleman to offer to pay for the date. When a man takes it upon himself to pay for the date, he is displaying that old act of “chivalry” that is missing from many men these days. However, some women feel more comfortable going “dutch” and if she insists on this, then don’t resist. To avoid awkwardness, make sure you let her know before the date that you plan on paying for it.

9. The Goodnight Kiss
Some women prefer not to kiss after a first date, while others may be disappointed if the guy doesn’t even try. There is no easy answer to this question. Body language and chemistry throughout the night is key in the decision you make. If it feels right, then you may want to consider making the move. If it doesn’t feel right then a friendly hug may be more appropriate.

10. Be Confident
The best tip we have saved for last. Women love it when a man is confident. Confidence means that you find it easy to express yourself, show off your sense of humor, and be yourself in a pleasant and assured way. Being confident means that if you enjoyed the date you are not afraid to ask her out on a second date. It means if you tell her you will call her that you will do so.  Some may think that you either do or do not have confidence, but the fact is that confidence can be learned.  The definition of confidence is, “a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.” This is something you can learn to project and should practice every day.

Have fun on your date, be yourself, and use the above tips to make the experience a more enjoyable one for both you and your date.

Women, do you agree with this list? Do you have more tips to add? Please post your comments in the Comment section below.


Joe Tracy

Joe Tracy is the publisher and founder of Online Dating Magazine, which launched in July 2003 and has been providing original dating advice, tips, articles, reviews, and videos to readers ever since.


  1. calif on April 28, 2010 at 3:17 pm

    depending how long you have communicated prior to the first date, YES a small gift is wonderful (man/women). Lets bring back the chivalry in dating.

    • vlad on May 2, 2016 at 11:59 pm

      I think flower it`s a good present for a first date

  2. wilson on May 13, 2010 at 10:20 am

    I think it’s completely not right to kiss after a first date.

    It should be on third date.

    • KimO on December 16, 2010 at 7:44 pm

      It depends on the person and how well you know them before you actually go on a first date. My opinion.

  3. Mei on July 28, 2010 at 8:37 pm

    Don’t be something you’re not, if you love that girl you’ll be yourself. You shouldn’t have to watch a chick flick if you don’t desire such a fate. Besides, it’s misleading and if she does fall in love it’ll only be with your mask. Not you.

  4. Stephen Kevin on August 6, 2010 at 9:52 am

    On your first date try to be yourself. don’t exaggerate anything. bring out the inner Feelin in you. try to implement on something that can draw her attention… you may use your talent. if u are a good artist draw her portrait, if u like singing sing for her love songs… just try these little things and i tell you everything will work out perfectly. i am talking out of experience.

  5. Andrian007 on August 11, 2010 at 3:36 pm

    Over the years I’ve found that every woman is different. I’ve always been told to take her out to a nice restaurant and give her a gift… and that was what I did. I got her some chocolate and took her to a nice lunch. When I told a female friend about what I did, she was shocked and told me that women would feel overwhelmed by that and that something casual like a pub would be sufficient for a first date! A pub? You must be joking!

    But being a gentleman is a must and you must never be late.

    • KimO on December 16, 2010 at 10:16 am

      I can relate, women do get overwhelmed by the simplest things and its pretty odd, but then again time changes and so do people.

  6. Lace on September 13, 2010 at 7:41 pm

    Opening doors and pulling out chairs makes a great impression- gentlemen are so hard to find! And if you encounter any stairs on a date, the lady is first to go up, but the gentleman is first to go down. This way he can catch her if she loses her footing. (The last guy I went out with had it a bit confused, but still made a good effort- points for trying!)

  7. John on August 8, 2011 at 3:43 pm

    To often girls will ask “Will you call me?” Its one of those traps girls lay! If you say “no” she tells everyone you’re a jerk; if you say “yes” and don’t mean it, you’re a jerk. It’s lose, lose. Typically guys don’t say they will call you, unless you are retarded enough to ask. Don’t try to manipulate people with traps.

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