Follow These 10 Tips for Safe Dating Online

Online Dating First Date Safety

Online dating is awesome. Just be sure to stay safe when meeting in person.

There’s a nervousness, thrill, and excitement that occurs when meeting a person for the first time face to face. During this enchanting and stressful time, it’s important to remember to always be on your guard. Online dating is a great way to meet a potential partner or soul-mate.  But don’t forget that the person you are meeting you do not yet truly know. Thus always be alert. Online Dating Magazine has assembled some tips and guidelines for you when going on that exciting first date:

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10 Tips for Dating Safely on Your First Date

1. Arrange to meet elsewhere than your home.
When meeting for the first time, never allow your date to pick you up from your home. In fact, your date shouldn’t even know your home address.

2. Meet in a public place.
For a first meeting, always meet in a public place where other people are in close proximity. Popular public places to meet on a first date include coffee shops (research shows this is the most popular first date destination) and restaurants. For the more creative, you could consider an event and amusement place. Meeting in a public place also means remaining in a public place. Avoid secluded areas during your date.

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3. Remember that alcohol affects your judgment.
The biggest threat to a person’s judgment, when on a date, is alcohol. Not only does alcohol affect your judgment, but it also lessens your inhibitions. If you are drinking, keep your drink in sight at all times and don’t get so drunk that you don’t know what you are doing. Better yet, try to avoid alcohol on your first date. Always keep your mind fresh and alert.

4. Use your own mode of transportation.
For your first date, make sure that you have your own mode of transportation to the public place you are meeting (unless a friend is driving you and hanging out nearby till your date is over).

5. Don’t assume that your date is safe.
When you get to know someone online, you may start to feel a level of “comfort” with that person. Whether a man or woman, you should never make the assumption that the person is going to be a complete lady or gentlemen. That doesn’t mean you should be nervous! To the contrary – plan on having a great time. Just be alert and don’t let assumptions based on your online communications affect your initial judgments. For example, just because you met someone on a Christian Website doesn’t mean you should assume that they will be perfectly well-behaved.

6. Don’t exchange addresses yet.
Even if the first date goes well, there is no reason for your date to know where you live. If you plan a second date, plan on meeting at the date location again.

7. Listen to your gut.
If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Remember to trust your gut instinct. If your gut tells you something isn’t right, then remove yourself from the situation.

8. Always let someone else know where you’re going.
Be sure someone knows where you are going and who you’ll be with. You might even consider arranging a time to call and check in. Or you could arrange to meet up with friends later that night.

9. Never give a home phone number.
Pretty much these days everyone uses cell phones. But if you happen to have a home landline, never give that number out. It’s always safer to give a cell phone number. In fact, some people will use “throw away phones” for their initial online dating communications. So why shouldn’t you give out a home phone number? Click here for the answer.

10. Always remain alert.
Even if you’re having a blast and the chemistry is great, it’s a good idea to remain alert the whole evening. Make sure you have a cell phone on you.

Dating safely is very important. In the initial stages of dating and online dating, you are still getting to know someone you know very little about. By creating a safe environment to know the person, you’re creating a better situation for yourself.


Joe Tracy

Joe Tracy is the publisher and founder of Online Dating Magazine, which launched in July 2003 and has been providing original dating advice, tips, articles, reviews, and videos to readers ever since.


  1. RJ on August 7, 2010 at 11:09 am

    Not only are first meetings vigilance necessary, but still don’t drop your your guard beyond that! We all know about first impressions. They should keep on going. Keep yourself on alert at ALL times,because the hits keep coming!

  2. KJ on August 7, 2010 at 11:16 am

    It seems the guys with a good sense of humor, act like gentlemen and seem too interested in your needs, are at times good manipulators, getting you wind into their net, and then that Dr Jekyl & Mr Hyde personality arise! No honest, sensitive, good natured person will become aggressive and expect you to bow down to their needs. A good relationship is built on RESPECT! No one should feel bad in a relationship, nor should they be embarrassed, undermined, or humiliated ever! You do know on a first date if the person is aggressive or an honest compassionate person! Always good to go with your antenna’s, gut feelings, don’t second guess yourself, GET OUT!

  3. jlester on September 17, 2010 at 3:12 pm

    Vigilance is needed long after the first date. There is still a danger of a woman taking advantage of your relationship to transfer your funds to her purse.

  4. Elizabeth on February 7, 2011 at 8:20 am

    Gosh I was doing most of the things wrong but I will be safe next time thanks to this and the other useful articles. Dating is so much fun and I do enjoy it but what I don’t understand is; why they keep trying to abuse the beauty of it or why they trying to scam you in some how?

  5. Betty Johnson on September 14, 2015 at 7:00 am

    That’s a good point that you don’t know these people yet. I definitely agree that meeting in a public place away from your house is probably best until you get to know them. It doesn’t hurt to be careful, even if they are perfectly nice guys. Even while you’re being careful, you can still have a good time meeting these new people.

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