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Online Dating Newsletter
Volume 2, Number 3 - April
13, 2005
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Table of Contents
1. From the Editor
2. Creative Date Ideas: Planetarium
Presentation
3. Online Dating Tips: Create Reassurances
4. Relationship Tips: Be Assertive,
Not Aggressive
5. Relationship Quote of the Week
6. Inspirational Quote of the Week
7. Romantic Ideas: Message in the Sand
8. News: Online Dating Industry to
Grow by Only 9%
9. Feature Link: Online Dating Over
40
10. Online Dating Newsletter Updates
From the Editor
One of my favorite quotes comes from a gentleman named
John R. Wooden who once said, "Be more concerned
with your character than your reputation, because your
character is what you really are, while your reputation
is merely what others think you are."
This piece of wisdom packs a big punch not only for
you and I as individuals, but also for businesses and
the way they conduct business.
A person's character is something that is determined
by his or her daily actions. Being spiteful, angry,
greedy, and/or vengeful builds a negative character
while being kind, giving, sincere, and forgiving helps
builds a strong positive character.
The good news is that because a character is developed
by daily decisions, it is something that can be enhanced
at any time. For example, by consciously deciding to
talk less about people behind their backs and more
about positive things you see in others, you begin
to instantly increase your character. The way you conduct
yourself every minute of the day helps determine the
type of person you are and the type of person that
you will become. And nowhere is this more important
than the relationships you develop.
As your character improves, you will notice that your
relationships will improve too. When you live by the
golden rule - do unto others as you would have them
do unto you - you discover a new happiness in your
life that affects the way people relate to you. This
is important in dating too, because the person you
are dating will often act the same way to you as the
way you act towards them. Keep your focus on making
others happy and it will bring you ultimate happiness.
Best of success in your relationships,
Joe Tracy, editor
Online
Dating Newsletter
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Creative Date Ideas:
Planetarium Presentation
Stargazing can be very romantic, but what if you live
in a big city full of lights or the weather is cloudy
and you can't see the beautiful night sky? If you can't
get away to a secluded clear-skied area, take your date
to a show at the planetarium. The two of you can lie
back in the planetarium seats in the dark and enjoy the
splendid show of planets, stars, and constellations.
This creative idea can set the mood for a romantic evening
and, who knows, you might learn something, too! (SOURCE:
Online Dating Newsletter - www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
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Online Dating Tips:
Create Reassurances During Communication
In one form or another, everyone needs reassurances now and then. A lot of
the clues you pick up on through face-to-face communication (a warm smile,
physical contact, etc.) are not generally present in the initial stages of
online dating. If you are really enjoying your communications with someone,
remove some uncertainty by reassuring your match that you enjoy interacting
with them.
If you look forward to receiving emails from a particular
online dating match, make sure you let your match know.
If you feel more connected to your match after a long
chat online, send them an email thanking them for the
pleasant conversation. Reassuring your match will allow
them to better understand your intentions to moving
the process forward and they will likely, in turn,
reassure you of a mutual connection if they feel the
same.
This tip also applies to relationships. Throughout
the stages of a relationship, it is always good to
reassure your partner that you care for them and enjoy
spending time with them. Reassurance makes them more
confident of your feelings and more content with the
relationship. By effectively communicating how happy
you are with your relationship, your partner can feel
more secure about life with you. (SOURCE: Online Dating
Newsletter - www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
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Relationship Tips:
Be Assertive, Not Aggressive
When trying to communicate an important but controversial issue in a relationship,
it is important to remember that being assertive is much more affective than
being aggressive. When you are assertive you are able to ask for what you want
without attacking the other person by being overly aggressive. In the book "Emotional
Unavailability: Recognizing It, Understanding It, and Avoiding Its Trap" author
Bryn C. Collins explains the benefits of assertiveness and the drawbacks of
aggressive confrontation:
"When you are assertive rather than aggressive,
you create a safe environment for your partner. This
is very important because, as you recall, one of the
core issues for many emotionally unavailable persons
is safety. If you are being clear, assertive, and in
control of your own emotions, your partner can feel
safe enough to be more vulnerable and hear what you
have to say.
Remember, when you are confronting someone, your objective
is still to find a solution to a problem, not to attack
the other person and force your views on him or her." (SOURCE:
Emotional
Unavailability: Recognizing It, Understanding It, and
Avoiding Its Trap, by Bryn C. Collins, M.A.,
L.P. - in bookstores everywhere)
***
Relationship Quote
of the Week
"Young love is a flame, often very hot and fierce but still only light
and flickering. The love of the older and disciplined heart is as coals deep-burning
and unquenchable." - Henry Ward Beecher
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Inspirational Quote
of the Week
"You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it. So go ahead
and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because, remember, that's where you'll find
success. On the far side." - Thomas Watson, Sr.
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Romantic Ideas:
Message in the Sand
Plan a weekend getaway to a beachfront hotel or inn with your partner. Make
sure you book a room overlooking the beach and ocean. When your partner is
in the shower or otherwise occupied, sneak out and carve a message for them
in the sand. It can be as simple as "I love you" along with the name
of your partner, or even as elaborate as a proposal. Make sure your message
is written in a spot visible from the window of your hotel. Once back in the
room, suggest to your partner that you both get a breath of fresh air out on
the deck or patio and surprise them with your romantic message! (SOURCE:
Online Dating Newsletter - www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
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News: Online Dating
Industry to Grow by Only 9% This Year
(April 13, 2005 - onlinedatingnewsletter.com) In previous years, online dating
services saw massive double-digit percentage gains in business. That, however,
will change this year. The online dating industry grew by 73% in 2002 and 77%
in 2003. In 2004, however, those high numbers began to drop - the 2004 online
dating market grew by only 19%. According to an online dating research report
from Dublin Research and Markets, the online dating industry will grow by just
9%, to $516 million, in 2005.
Because of the decline in industry growth, dating
sites have focused on increasing conversions of viewers
into paying subscribers in order to keep growing. The
report states that conversion rates in the online dating
industry have increased about 25% in the last year.
Many dating sites are also paying more attention to
serious daters rather than casual daters to increase
their site revenue.
Serious daters are those people who go online hoping
to find long-term relationships or marriage. Serious
daters convert 20% more often, are twice as likely
to purchase long-term subscriptions and pay up to twice
as much per month as casual daters.
While online dating leaders Match.com and Yahoo! Personals
are struggling to grow revenues, relationship-focused
eHarmony has drawn increased attention from consumers,
the media, and venture capitalists. It is this relationship
focus that many dating sites are turning toward in
order to increase their financial success.
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Feature Link: Online
Dating Over 40
Sometimes the process of online dating can seem intimidating
to someone over 40 when all the advertising of online
dating services seems aimed at those under 40. Online
Dating Magazine writer Julie-Ann Amos points out that
the number of people using online dating services grows
with age. In the article, Amos gives several tips for
those over 40 who are thinking of entering into the
world of online dating to find that special someone.
To read the feature article, click
here.
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Online Dating Newsletter
Updates
A new "Clicking Together" cartoon has been uploaded
to the Online Dating Newsletter Website. Click
here to view it.
A new section has been added to the Online Dating
Newsletter Dating Fun Zone. Click
here to view the
new Dating Fun Facts section.
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