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Letter to the Editor:
Women Not Responding to Inquiries

This subject has been mentioned in other parts of the website, but I was hoping that you could publish this in hopes that there is some woman out there who is dating online that might see the frustrations and troubles men have with this.

Several years ago, I signed up for Match.com with the expectation that I'd be able to correspond with, meet and date other single women in my area. I browsed through the site, sent out a few emails and cancelled my membership after a month because I was getting no replies. Fast forward to today (actually it was two weeks ago). I decided that I would give Match.com another try now that I've had some experience with the site and might better navigate through it to get better results. In the two weeks that I have been back on Match.com, I have send out over 100 winks and close to 30 emails to various women and have yet to get a response to one wink or email. Women expect men to initiate
and make the first move, which we do, but being ignored and not having emails responded to is a bit rude.

I know that women get a lot more emails than men do and can't get to all of them, but most of those emails aren't even genuine. A female friend who was on Match told me that even though she got a lot of emails, most of them weren't to be taken seriously due to sexual propositioning or men emailing her from the far side of the world. Personally, I take the time to read women's profiles and to write a well thought out email specifically for that woman. I'm not sending out a blanket formed email that others do.

What I'm trying to understand is the woman's mentality and approach to online dating. During my searches I've seen the same profiles of the same women I've tried to make contact with and a good number of them are still active and looking for that special someone.

The only thing I can think of saying to them is that you're not looking in the right place and that email from that nice guy is probably sitting unread in your inbox. I consider myself to be a decent looking, intelligent, well educated, kindhearted man and yet not one person I have tried to make contact with has even responded.

If you're still online searching for a nice guy, you must not be doing something right because there are more guys like me out there who would love to hear from a nice woman. There's no excuse for not being able to find a nice guy, we're not that hard to find.
~ J Abello

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