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Online Dating Experience 35
Time to Forget and Move On
20 year old female
from Trinidad
I met
this guy called Thomas on Yahoo!
Personals. Apparently he saw
my profile and decided to message me. At first, of
course, I didn't really take much notice of him but
I continued
to talk to him. We switched to MSN because it was easier
to webcam there and we webcammed a lot! He was a bit
older than me. I was 18 at the time and he was 35.
He told me about himself' he worked with a software
solutions company (it's probably the 2nd in world
next to Oracle), he was single and he was soon planning
to come to my country (Trinidad) to do work for one
of our oil companies. Over the next few weeks we fell
out of touch. I would see him online but not message
him. I guess, at the time, I had other stresses in
my life. However, eventually we did start back talking
and then the talking turned more serious after I broke
up with my boyfriend.
Soon he was making the plans to
travel here and I of course agreed when he said he
wanted to meet me. I
remember the day we met as though it was yesterday,
it was a friday night in March'05 and I agreed to
see him at the Hilton hotel here and well I got there
and phoned his room from the lobby and he came down
to meet me. The moment we saw each other I guess there
was chemistry, he hugged me and told me "Good
to see you".
Well things got steamy instantly,
and soon we got into a sexual relationship. I longed
for the moments I could
see when he returned for more business here, and I
did see him after that. Then in June '05, another friday,
I was supposed to meet him, after seeing him earlier
that week but he didn't contact me at all to tell
me what time we could meet for. It was strange because
I knew the next day he was flying out again. However
I left it at that thinking he would contact me. I even
phoned the hotel the next day, but he had already checked
out. I emailed him but I got no response. Days passed
without a word and initially I was worried... then
weeks passed and my worry turned to frustration.
Eventually
I found out he blocked me on his MSN so I couldn't
see him online. I was confused. Three months passed,
and for most of that three months I cried over him....
Until one of my friends who I introduced him to couldn't
take seeing me in that state anymore and emailed him.
He wrote back to her and me, and said a long story
about his wife (WIFE? I was thoroughly confused at
that point), and his daughter who his wife tried to
leave
his country with illegally and he spoke of trying to
get divorced and his head being full and all that.
He did start back talking to me after that and I tried
to be normal and not ask him too many questions, I
didn't want him to go away again. I guess I was just
pathetic.
Another trip was bring planned for him
to come to my country again. I wanted to see him again,
despite what he had done. I was in love with this man.
He did come, but he cut me off again when he was here.
Just stopped talking to me. That was in Sept '05. I
decided from then to move on an forget him and I was
doing a pretty good job, but then in Nov '05 a strange
email address added me to MSN. Interestingly it was
him. AGAIN. At that point, I was hyperventilating.
What was this man's problem? We did however resume
talking and webcamming for the following months, but
things had changed. Again, he was here in Feb '06,
told me he would contact me when he got in, this was
just a few days before he came. Again when he came
he didn't contact me and subsequently blocked me from
his MSN again. Did he think it was an "okay" thing
to do? That I wouldn't be hurt? I was hurt and I still
am hurt. I guess it's a lesson learned. I don't hate
him or anything, but I hate what he has done and continues
to do. Maybe in a few weeks he will start back talking
to me like normal, but I've learned my lesson and
changed all of my email addresses so he cannot step
back into my life: even if he tried.
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