The Bar is Better Than Online Dating

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Online Dating Experience 23
The Bar is Better Than Online Dating
37 year old female from Texas

Ok I have done the online dating thing on and off for about seven years. I have done it in California, Washington D.C., Dallas and Nashville. It's the same everywhere (except in Nashville where the men were much more gentlemanly).

After my many experiences I have come to basically the same conclusion about men you meet on the net (or any forced singles situation for that matter) - they are cheap, they want sex as soon as possible, they don't want to make an effort, and they don't want to court you. The initial phone conversations always start out good. You hit it off, they make you laugh, you seem to want the same things out of life. You get excited to meet them, especially because they are attractive, successful and intelligent (well according to their profile). You arrange a date to meet somewhere (I have learned the hard way never let them pick you up - if they are absolutely heinous they will have to drive you home as well and also they will know where you live). You show up and they actually are as attractive as their picture. They pay for dinner and drinks (I'm sorry but I would never put up with a man who expected me to pay - very disrespectful - how did his mother raise him? Besides he shouldn’t be asking you out to dinner if he's not going to pay).

You agree to go out again but then the fun starts. Suddenly he doesn't want to take you out. He wants you to "come over so he can cook you dinner" - which at first seems flattering (oh my gosh he's actually going to cook for me) but what really translates to is "I'm too cheap to take you out anymore" (I also find this amusing since they just happened to let it slide at dinner how much they make so you know they're not broke") They also think that even though they've made no conscious effort to win you over they're entitled to grope you and have sex...

I find it hard to believe that couples get married off the net. I would like to see those stats. By dating online you take away: initial attraction, chemistry, timing, and fate to name a few. Basically you're just trying to force a connection, which never works. You're better off going to a bar by yourself.

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