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Online Dating Experience 06
Expected
Intimacy
25 year old female
from California
Editor's Note
This is the final of four consecutive online dating experiences shared by "Polly".
Her experiences are numbers 3, 4, 5,
and 6 in the Online
Dating Experiences section.
I understand that many people in the
population of America (nay the world) have had some
bad experiences with the opposite sex. I am no exception.
My favorite phrase (and it was posted on my ad for
a time) was, "I am jaded but not bitter",
which for me is the truth. Today we will discuss the
mis-representation (again) of the opposite sex on the
online dating scene.
It seems to be a growing trend these days, to find
a man on the net who states that they have been hurt,
but are ready to date again. These are, without fail,
the men who later end up crying in their beer because you remind them of their
wonderfully sweet Cindy who dumped them for reasons unknown (the names of the
players in my articles have been changed to protect the idiotic). Now I have
no problem with sadness over a lost love. I do, however, have a problem with
people mis-representing their intentions and not having the good sense or class
to admit it halfway through a miserable date.
The second classification of dater I will discuss (and
gripe about), are those who say that they are ready
to date, ask you out (and faithful readers, you will
remember that this is a pet peeve of Polly's) then grope and drool over you all
night long in anticipation of the expected intimacy that you are going to share
with them because they had the courtesy to go dutch and not make you pay for
their dinner as well. You should feel privileged to eat with, get groped by,
and eventually sleep with these men. RIGHT! Polly will not accept days like this.
I have no problem on the dutch treat thing, but I think women these days need
to be treated like the goddesses that they are.
Dutch treat is a wonderful thing. I can remember speaking
to people who have dated in various ways (bars, casual
meetings and set-ups) for years who have said that
if the man buys them a meal, they feel obligated to
do something for or with them. I, however, do not share
that obligatory feeling. If a man buys me dinner, I
say thank you, thus fulfilling my obligation to do
anything for this man that I have just met. Many women
need to take heed to this fact, and many men need to
realize that the dinner you just bought is the payment
you make to spend time with a girl you asked out to
begin with.
Now as you all know, I am a prolific dater. I do not
enjoy dating however. It is tiring and usually makes
you angry to boot. I have met some of the most ignorant
people in the world, both on the net and off. I am, however, searching for that
treasured relationship. I will not date any man that makes me feel bad. If you
do not know what you are worth, and cannot be with someone unless they are the
reason you feel
a certain way, you have some work to do in your own mind and should not be dating.
If someone enhances your life and re-enforces the respect you have for yourself,
date like a mad-man). If more people heeded Polly's tips, more of us would be
happy.
Lastly, girls and guys, please have respect for each
other. No one is dispensable. We are all worth the
time others spend on us. Make sure you respect yourself
and each other.
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