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Experience 05
Internet Dating Deception
25 year old female
from California
Editor's Note
This is the third of four consecutive online dating experiences shared by "Polly".
Her experiences are numbers 3, 4, 5,
and 6 in the Online
Dating Experiences section. As you all know, the traverse of the
Internet dating scene has left much to be desired.
I do have a good story however about the longest e-relationship
I have ever had.
Last summer (at the height of my e-dating
), I met a very nice man in Colorado on the internet.
We e-chatted for two months before I gave him my number.
In these e-chats, we discussed life, liberty and the
pursuit of one another. We had a lovely time and chatted
into the night.
Two months in, I gave him my number and
we continued our pseudo-courting by phone. We enjoyed
each other’s company and instead of the online
late night chats, we spoke on the phone late into the
night.
He promised me the world and offered
to fly me to Colorado so I could help him run his new
bar. I
was very impressed, however I played hard to get.
Imagine, Polly, running willy nilly to Colorado for
some man she has never met in person.
This, however, was not an issue for him.
We spoke for months and months. Every
time he kept begging me to come to Colorado and I kept
saying no. As time went on, I realized that it made
him only try harder when I said no. Hmmmmmmmm.
After
the first 3 months of actual live phone chat, he
explained to me that he does not really own a bar.
He in fact
did not own anything. He lived with
his parents (not a big deal) but he was 35 and his parents restricted his
phone use and grounded him (still). Ok, a little weird,
but not insurmountable. Then
the ball dropped.
He gave me the ultimatum. He said if
I did not come to Colorado and live with him (and his
parents, ha ha), he no longer wanted to have any sort
of relationship with me. I said (in true Polly style)
Good-Bye.
The moral of today’s story ladies and jelly-spoons,
is that the Internet can breed the exact same problems
the bar scene can. Remember that someone cannot see
that you are joking about certain subjects (as there
is no way to show emotion and emot-icons don’t
do the trick) and that people from different places
have different meanings for different words.
That being
said, watch what you say to whom, and remember not
to take anything from someone you meet this way,
that you would not take from someone you meet in your
daily
life.
I am hopeful
that this will not repeat itself. I enjoyed my time
with this man, but it came to an end. I hope that you
(and I) have learned from this experience and that
we will all be as careful and wary of our cyber-surroundings
as we do in our daily surroundings.
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