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Experience 04
Being Caught Unaware
25 year old female
from California
Editor's Note
This is the second of four consecutive online dating experiences shared by "Polly".
Her experiences are numbers 3, 4, 5,
and 6 in the Online
Dating Experiences section.
I am here with another experience of
what not to do when dating. Today's lesson is about
being caught unaware.
As you all know, I have been traversing the expansive
Internet Dating Web to try and find true happiness.
The following is an account of what can (and will)
go wrong.
In an earlier experience, I explained a lovely gentleman
who regaled me with stories of Post Traumatic Stress
Disorder (from being a nurse), and a battle with Narcotic
addiction. I had no issue with the Recovery form Narcotic
addiction, it seemed however, to be consuming his life.
I ended it after two dates when, upon ending the second
date, he asked me to exclusively see him. I refused
(for obvious and not so obvious reasons) and we "broke
up".
A month later, I was sleeping soundly at Midnight
on a Saturday (party animal this girl), and there was
a knock at my front door. I jumped from my bed in a
white panic (I had fallen asleep with the TV on), and
ran for the door, grabbing a blanket to cover myself.
I went to the front window to see who it was and wondering
if someone had the wrong apartment (I don’t have
many people over, I value my privacy). Upon parting
the blinds, I heard my name and a familiar voice saying "It's
Guido" (some names have been changed to protect
the annoying).
I answered the door in nothing more than a blanket
and a fine layer of shock. He asked, "Were you
sleeping?" I wanted to say no, but I can’t
lie. "Yes, can I call you tomorrow?" "Sure
I would have called but I washed my Cell Phone in my
pants." (Well that explains everything!) Ok, I
thought, lets move this along. I said goodbye (doing
my best Sleeping Beauty impression) and closed the
door.
Now here's the distressing part. This man has never
been to my house and only has my cell phone number.
He had no way of knowing where I lived or how to obtain
the information. There is no Cell Phone directory (especially
not one that gives out addresses), my home phone is
unlisted, and I NEVER TOOK HIM TO MY HOUSE!!!!
So two days later, I called to see what this was all
about. Now I was pretty incensed about rudely showing
up and not calling. Also I had a bone to pick with
him for coming to my house. I asked the obvious question, “What
did you need Guido?” He stated that he was in
the neighborhood and just wanted to say hi. He referenced
that he saw my lights on and my TV was on in the bedroom.
I asked how he knew the TV was on, and he replied that
he could see it from the window (yes, he was, I think
the cops call it, PEEPING). I asked how he found where
I lived and he creepily replied that he had an easier
time looking for me when I had out of state plates
on my car. (Spooky Spooky).
Needless to say, I ended the conversation quickly.
It was rather scary and an experience I will not forget
easily. Here is what I should have done:
Guido: "Hi are you sleeping"
Polly: "Yes you pervert, how did you find my
house?"
Guido: "It was easier when you had Out of State
Plates on your car."
Polly: "Are you insane?"
Guido: "I may be, does it turn you on?"
Polly: "No you freak, go or I will call the
cops"
Guido: "I'm sorry, I didn’t realize how
much I have distressed you by my midnight visit.
I am so sorry, I will never darken your doorstep
again and you will live in peace and harmony for
all time. God Bless You Polly and God Bless your
home which I have soiled with my mere presence."
Polly: "I'm glad you have finally come to realize
the error of your ways. Thank you and your apology
is accepted. Now go in peace and try to refrain from
stalking your next date."
See how easy that could have been?
The moral of this experience is, be cognizant of who
you date and how much they know about you. Remember
that the potential anonymity of the Internet is colored
by those who will use the net to find easy marks and
people who do not question oddity. Remember that the
Internet is a way for anyone to say anything. Remember
that the Internet has the potential to aid in some
of the biggest lies of all time. If a hacker can break
the FBI firewall, some Don Juan can talk pretty and
crack your firewall just as easily.
If you have "chatted" with someone for a
while and believe that you know him or her, make sure
that on your first date, you treat him or her with
the same caution with which you would treat any other
date. Getting to know someone by typing is not always
the best way to get to know someone. Regardless, keep
yourself safe.
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