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Online Dating Experience 02
Improving My Profile
29 year old male from Michigan

I wonder how I can improve my profile? I have already posted a lot of different photos, checked the grammar, added some good non cliches. All my letters were optimistic, I made jokes, asked decent questions about her, revealed something about me a bit. But out of my 50 original letters to women of my age on match, well... I got just one short reply. That can shake anyone\'s hope and trust to the system of online dating: no reply.

I understand the competition in the system here is fierce: most likely each woman's profile receives tons of letters from men, and that induces the thought they can always find a man better, like in any market where supply is many times higher than demands.

Anyhow, I am wondering what are the ways to make the situation at least reasonable: 50 original letters and just one tiny reply make anyone frustrated and wants to quit online dating or switching to real one.

I even talked to my male friends who were involved in online dating, not surprisingly they experienced the same thing: women are not willing to reply or initiate conversation. For instance, out of 2351 clicks a friends got just two letters from women.

It is men who have a tough time dating: they need to write an original letter each time they email a woman. Men get all the discouraging "no reply" answers. They do not discuss dating with others out of some fear of being not masculine enough or not in the mainstream who are successful in everything.

Editor's Response
Below, I have linked to several articles which should help you improve your response rate. In addition, you may want to try a completely different type of online dating service for better results. For example, are you on Match.com and having no success? Then try eHarmony.com since it's a completely different approach (and vice versa). Ideally, you want to find a service that is drawing in more women than men. Some services give women free months and lifetime memberships in order to create a better ration.

Here's some great articles that will help you improve the results you get with online dating services:

» Profile Tips That Work
» Profile Headers That Attract Attention
» Writing a Personal Profile Ad That Works
» Creating a Better Online Dating Photo
» Online Dating Profile Perceptions

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