Dating Resolutions

Another year has gone by, and as you reflect on the past 12 months, you may see many things — career accomplishments, celebrations with friends, a change of location, that new hairdo you’ve been dying to try (then realized it was a mistake), and of course…your dating life. Or in some cases, lack thereof.

And in others, maybe the past year has brought about the start of a successful relationship and you are wondering if the New Year will continue this budding new love.

Whatever the case may be, it is time to accept 2006 for what it was, embrace what you were given, and instead of anticipate all that might come in 2007, go out there and grab what you want…just wait til you’ve exchanged hellos.

Do I have a dating New Year’s Resolution you ask? Well, this isn’t about me; I’m here to help you. Okay, okay, fine. No. I’m at the point where I don’t care. Okay, I care a little. Earlier this year, I had been at the “I don’t care, whatever happens, happens,” stage. Then it was the “I don’t care,” phase. And on to the, “Well, Old Maid did used to be my favorite card game,” point.

Kidding, kidding. But I’ve always been a firm believer in not pushing things. That when it’s the right time, the right person will come along. For some people, it’s sooner, others, it is later, and for some, it takes a few tries. Whatever the case, it’s different for everyone, so who am I to tell anyone what to do, or even myself. I say, just have fun in the process and don’t overwhelm yourself. The point of dating, and meeting people in general, is to have fun, after all. And if there’s anything I do advocate, it is having fun. And you wouldn’t want to disappoint me, would you? I didn’t think so.

So instead of a big New Year’s Resolution, I’ve broken it down month-by-month—some little dating goals. So go ahead, you do the same, and have fun with it. I wish you all a healthy and happy New Year. Have a great New Year’s Eve, and whether or not you have someone to kiss, who cares? You have 365 other opportunities to make up for it.

January: I think I’m still in the “don’t care” phase here. There’s so much recouping time after the holidays, and all those bills rolling in. Who can afford dating?

February: Valentine’s Day! Maybe I should go back and revise January.

March: Madness. Such a dreary month, it seems to be that time of year when couples either make it or break it. There’s always that lull after Valentine’s Day. Couple are either stronger, or break up afterwards. This is when girls hit the bar together, looking for some new material. Yes, beer sales go up in March. And the drinks are on me…

April: My favorite month…flowers coming out, the sun shines a little more…baseball season has begun…spring is in the air. Which makes it the perfect time to start a Spring Fling. Take me to a baseball game and let’s call it a date. Just don’t talk too much and interrupt the game…sweetie.

May: Hoping to take a little vacation come May, so dare I say that my dating goal is to be single? Maybe I should take that back. Okay, we’ll leave it open-ended. If I’m single, the trip would be fun because who knows who you could meet on vacation? If I’m attached, it would be fun going with my new man. Whew, I got out of that one okay.

June: By this time, I’ve gotten through the dull winter, the trip, and might be ready to plant myself in one spot for a bit. Baseball season is in full swing, the Red Sox should be really tanking by now, and I’m a happy girl. Yep, fellas, come on up to the plate. This girl is ready to date…seriously.

July: Can you buy me a drink? No, I’m taken.

August: We broke up. Yeah, you guys got mad at me because my columns were dull. It’s all for you. Thanks a lot.

September: Well I’m over him, that’s good. He wasn’t that great to begin with, you were all right. The good news is that it’s September and starting to cool off and turn into my favorite season—fall. Something I’m ready to do.

October: My sister gets married this month. At this point, I’ve known about the wedding for a year, so it would be cool to have a date. Because chances are, being that she’s family, I won’t have a shot at meeting any possible suitors since about half the guests are relatives. Or maybe I don’t want a date… I don’t exactly trust her judgment in picking out a pretty dress for me.

November: The birthday month. It’s a landmark one this year. I remember in my teens I wrote a letter to myself to be opened on this birthday. I hope it was nothing too depressing…like…have a stellar boyfriend. Maybe I should have a stellar boyfriend, just in case.

December: December again? Already? Boy, does time fly. Hopefully I’ve had plenty of mistletoe out at this point and a good date for New Year’s Eve.

So will I need a list of goals for next year?

Good question. We’ll have to wait and see.

Note: My column will be on break until March 2007.

Dating Triumphs and Tragedies is published every Sunday by Online Dating Magazine columnist Nicole Roberge. She can be reached at [email protected].

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