Besides,
whatever happened to good
old-fashioned courting?
Okay, maybe not so old-fashioned that we use the word “courting,” but
at least the days when you actually used human interaction,
not a website, to find out information on a person.
Sure, it’s fun to get some interesting tidbits
on someone, but isn’t it more fun to find out
via the person you’re looking up? Does googling
take some of the fun away from getting to know someone?
When first
dating, or upon meeting
someone you might want
to date, it
might seem like a good idea, or even
routine, to google his or her name, but you must be
wary of what you find. While the internet is a vast
area of
information, it must be used properly. When online
dating, you know that the person already has some background
information on you via the internet. That’s the
point. They put that information out there into the
dating pool for people to see, willingly saying, “read
my clever anecdotes!”
But who knows
what is hiding in the little
nooks and crannies of the
Internet, and
just who might be searching
for them. A quick search might reveal a little
more about someone than the searcher bargained for. Police records, old college
photos, girls gone wild…the possibilities are endless.
I knew that my
name would reveal some articles I had written. Fine. I figured that I was
pretty safe there because work is a general date topic
anyway. But
what else was lurking out there? I wondered. If the next guy I meet is a
potential date, should I be having anxiety attacks
over what he will find if (or more
likely, when) he googles me?
I put myself in the place of a future date. I
googled myself.
It was like
being at the doctor’s
office. In the half a second it took to give me my
results, I went through all the anxieties of waiting
for actual
test results. Googlitis? Just a touch of hemogoogle? Or, wait a second,
could it be? Do I have the
most boring google results
on the Internet?
As I expected,
up popped articles that I had written. Scrolling past
those, I knew there had to be something better. But
strewn between the articles
were all
of my other twins out there. Nicole Roberge in the Peace Corps? Not me. Soccer
player? Nope. A lot of stuff in French…skip a few pages…Bad news.
In Maine, Nicole Roberge ripped someone off—a refund never seen.
That’s not me, for the record. Did you know I was a theatre coordinator?
Yeah, me neither.
So with my
results, I was relieved
to mostly find articles
I had written amidst the
other Nicole Roberge’s
out there, though I was worried
over the possibility that
someone might confuse me
for one of
the other results. Especially if googled
by someone you just met, how will they know if you’re the one speaking
at the Education Convention or partying at Spring Break in Cabo? If you
detail your search enough, you can usually find what you’re looking
for, but if you’re cold-googling, things could get tricky.
But then
there were the strange bits of information that were mine and were not
work-related that shocked me a little. Things from my past that
I didn’t
know were available for the whole world to see. But things so insignificant
that I had forgotten about, and that no one should really care about.
For
instance, the bio lab presentation schedule from my freshman year of
college, complete with my group members info and
a synopsis. Yes, now I
remember, Chimpanzees
versus Humans. How original. Glad they don’t have my grade up
there.
Another
college bit…a mention in the English Department newsletter.
My name in a flier from a summer job during college... Do people
really
read this stuff?
After my
stressful google adventure,
I found…. that
I am not worth googling. A lot of useless information is out there
on me. Trust me, you’ll get better,
and mostly true, information if you just straight out ask me. But
if you do want to delve into the world of googling, best to do it
in private.
Don’t reveal
your dirty habit just yet. If things go well, and you’re comfortable
enough with each other to share all the information that might be
out there, then go
ahead and joke about it. “I googled you!” Chances are,
in this day and age, in addition to not being surprised, he also
expected it. Why wouldn’t
you have googled him? He googled you.