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Dating Tips Advice Column:
Where Do They Disappear To?
Dear Dating Tips,
I don't know if it is just me, or what, but
every time I start talking with someone interesting,
they seem to disappear without a trace. What's up with
that?
What am I doing wrong? ~
Not a Magician
Dear Not a Magician,
Perhaps it will help to know that this is a big problem
for the majority of people in the online dating scene,
not just you. Because of the anonymous nature of the
Internet, people act differently than they would in
real life. Instead of doing the honorable thing and
telling you why they are no longer communicating, they
just disappear without a trace. This can be the cause
of quite a bit of frustration until you realize that
it happens to everyone, not just you.
In essence, you are not doing anything wrong. And
why they just disappear is the million dollar question.
Here are just a few of the possible reasons:
1) Many people communicate with multiple matches at
the same time. During this time, more matches show
up and they start to feel crowded. So they just stop
communicating with older matches and keep going with
new ones. This shouldn't be considered a loss to you
as you learned a lot about the person's personality
when they didn't give you the respect of a response
as to why they were no longer communicating.
2) When a person finds a "perfect match",
he/she may suddenly just stop communicating with others.
3) Ready for this one? One out
of every three people using online dating services
are married! Many of these people
realize they can only take the process so far. When
the heat is on, they go away and start new communications
with others (or get caught by their spouse and end
up in deep trouble).
Not all people are like those listed above. The online
dating scene can be frustrating at times, but your
true match may be right around the corner. ~
The Dating Tipster
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