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 Dating From the Inside Out
by Susan
S. Davis
Spiritual
Intelligence and Dating
Every
culture on the planet has created some type of spiritually
based ideology, to help its people deal with the
life questions that loom largely in front of humanity.
It is on that basis, that we can assume that human
beings are naturally spiritual, regardless of religious
affiliation, or even the lack thereof. The word “spiritual” comes
from the Latin root “spiritus” meaning "breath" – as
in the breath of life, involving opening the heart
and cultivating the capacity to experience respect,
reverence and gratitude.
The
word incorporates the ability to experience the poignancy
of life, to know passion of existence, through the
ability to understand that there is an entity existence
that is greater than the self. The purpose of spirituality
is to bring about greater love and compassion for
all humans and respect for all living things.
The
spiritual center in the human brain, was demonstrated
in the early 1990s by a neurologist at the University
of California. Known as the part of the brain that
provided the capacity and sensitivity to inquire
as to the meaning and value of certain aspects of
our lives, another definition was coined as a kind
of “spiritual
intelligence.”
In
our modern world, spiritual intelligence is known as
the mechanism with which human beings solve problems,
in a way that places life in a broader context. It’s
the intelligence that enables people to assess which
courses of action are more meaningful than others.
It is connecting with our inner core to make the kinds
of choices that are in line with our innermost purposes.
Spiritual
intelligence is considered uniquely human and allows
us to change rules and situations, to better reflect
circumstances as they evolve. It is a basic foundation
upon which IQ and emotional intelligence may function
properly. It is the holistic concept that incorporates
mind, body and spirit. In the modern world, spiritual
intelligence can be more succinctly stated as a search
for meaning beyond the physical world and material
possessions.
Spiritual
intelligence is not predicated upon religion or being
religious. People often ask fundamental questions
about life, such as “Why
has this happened,” “What is my purpose”?
and, of course, “What is the meaning of life?” in
an effort to discern and distill what kinds of situations
that they should be involved in, as they try to determine
whether situations are good for them to be involved
in.
Whether
people know it or not, it is the larger picture,
that many are really addressing, as they try to become
more aware of themselves, the universe at large,
and what place and purpose they have in it.
Despite
having careers that are satisfying, fantastic friends,
and all the material wealth that is supposed to be
characteristic of contentment, sometimes, all of
these things are not enough, as evidenced by so many
people that still feel an emptiness.
So
why do so few people find happiness and inner peace
in the Western World? It could be because this society’s
hallmark is characterized by Capitalist materialism,
somewhat as a result of a lack of emotional and spiritual
intelligence. Instant emotional and physical gratification
is often the order of the day.
In
order to fill the emotional holes that so many people
have in their lives, they have resorted to other
material and physical means, to fill up the emptiness.
As a result, a lack of a sense of morals, family,
community, inner peace and life meaning prevails,
as the never-ending cycle of food, drink, drugs,
greed, gambling, and sex continues.
What
tends to happen to people who lack spiritual intelligence
when it comes to choosing potential dates and life
partners, is that they choose the same types of individuals,
over and over again, whether or not they are the best
suited for a partnership. Whoever manages to adhere
to whatever their standards may be in, are the kinds
of people that they attract and are attractive to them.
In
addition, when a culture lacks the spiritual essence
that can support individuals with visions for its people,
it is then up to each individual, to discover it for
themselves. Spiritual intelligence can be developed
by finding a new level of consciousness, including
awareness and possibilities that can provide greater
meaning, and the resultant inner peace and contentment
that so many people seek.
Since
spiritual intelligence and consciousness, when developed,
can be used to transform many aspects of life, including
the civilization, planet and even the course of history,
it stands to reason that it can also be extremely
beneficial with regard to interpersonal relationships.
Many
positive qualities can come from highly developed
spiritual intelligence, including heightened personal
honesty to one’s
self and others, the capacity to be authentic and real,
sense of humor, as well as a more opened mind and senses,
all of which serve to create a more fertile ground
for intimacy and love.
Other
qualities, which are also considered very attractive,
include the capacity to be flexible and spontaneous,
along with a high degree of self-awareness, and often,
the ability to transform pain and suffering into
happiness and joy. A strong belief that everything
happens for a reason and serves us, is an additional
attribute that can be used to great benefit.
Finally,
one of the more critical aspects of spiritual intelligence
as to interpersonal relationships, encompasses the
awareness and knowledge associated with the universal
laws concerning attraction and gratitude. Mastering
those two aspects of the nature of psychic awareness
creates the tendency to operate from the higher self,
which channels directly into the heart and soul space
of love. Once operating from that vantage point,
it will become easier than ever, to attract the kinds
of people into our lives that will be the most beneficial
overall, on every level.
Susan
S. Davis is a published book author
and writer, currently doing research for a romantic
screenplay she is writing. Her Dating
From The Inside Out column
is published every Tuesday.
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