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by Susan
S. Davis
Practical
Intuition Strategy
A
lot has been said about following instincts and using
natural, intuitive impulses in daily life, that reference
conceptual thought as a means to strive to understand
what motivates action, in connection with insight.
Since
everyone has basic hunches, ideas, insights and inspiration,
there is no doubt that intuition can be a powerful
tool, and one of the most valuable methods for self
improvement and success in life. In fact, intuition,
at its core, can be beneficial for just about any
endeavor, and interpersonal relationships are no
exception.
In
fact, for matters of the heart, and anything involving
spirituality, tapping into one’s intuition can reap benefits that may
never otherwise have been realized through conventional
methods. This could be because the raw sort of psychic
data that gets stored within our minds, can itself
be based on actual facts, and is filed away just
below the conscious level.
Intuitive
impulses are often those
that cannot be explained – and
usually, we have no idea
where they come from. A common
scenario, is feeling as though
there is an issue we are “stuck” on – something
that just doesn’t seem
to be workable to deal with,
or a situation that defies
logic or factual explanation.
There doesn’t seem
to be a conclusion, and we
just don’t know what
to do.
It
can also be very common to get an idea out
of nowhere that makes no
sense at all – and
no amount of analysis is
able to determine its origin.
This can happen when it is
least expected, often when
we are in a relaxed state,
or our minds are on something
else. Because of this, we
sometimes ignore insights
and ideas that may well be
answers or solutions to some
of the problems that we face
on a daily basis.
The
subconscious mind is most likely the place
of origin for much of intuition.
Past research has concluded
that the subconscious mind
actually stores and has access
to everything that we have
seen, heard and come across
in our entire lives, almost
like a twenty-four hour recording.
However, because much of
this data is never even registered
in the conscious mind, it
never gets used in present
time. Our conscious mind
usually only absorbs those
things that we actively pay
attention to. Insights generally
come from the application
of life knowledge to the
current events that confront
us daily.
Human
beings are all born with intuition intact,
and it can be used to guide
from a very early stage.
Ever notice how children
seem to instinctively sense
things? They are so young
that they have not yet learned
to disregard their intuition,
the way that more mature
people do. Over the years,
people can lose touch with
the ability to allow intuition
to be a guide and ally.
There
are basic techniques that
can be learned from brain
enhancement researchers that
can help us use the power
of the subconscious mind.
If we were to fully utilize
what our subconscious minds
offer, there is a chance
that we could greatly increase
our mental capabilities.
Intuition,
otherwise known as “gut” feelings,
are always available to tap
into; it is merely a matter
of trusting what is known
to be true, at the deepest
level, and what is felt will
guide one in the right direction.
For example, how many times
have you had a strong feeling
about an activity, person
or something in general,
and it turned out exactly
as you had predicted?
If
you’ve
ever met someone and knew
immediately whether or not
to pursue a friendship or
relationship, then you will
most likely know what it
is like to have an intuitive
impulse. These intuitions
can serve to provide a sort
of guidance forward in life.
It’s really a choice
of listening to the voice
of fear, or trusting the
voice that usually always
supports our best interests,
at their core. Intuition
will usually steer one in
the right direction, because
it is non-judgmental and “bipartisan” in
its essence. Used as an ally,
it can sometimes serve to
make life easier and a little
less complicated.
Below
are some strategies to help recognize
and use intuitive impulses
to be used to the best advantage,
when it comes to meeting
new people:
1.
Confront the Past - Firstly, see if
you can remember times in
the past when you listened
to your intuition. Are there
any times that you regret
not listening to your intuition?
Try listing out things that
you accomplished by listening
to your gut. Is there anything
that you can learn from the
past? If you create a list
of all the major highlights
in your life associated with
intuition, it will probably
include many situations where
you either followed, or wish
you had followed, gut instincts.
See if you can remember people
that you had wanted to talk
to in public, either newly,
or those you may not have
followed up with, for whatever
reason. Chances are, there
will be a few people that
you refrained from approaching.
That’s an
example of how people sometimes
let their fears take over
unnecessarily.
2.
Highlight General Awareness – For
a week, see if you can try to become more aware and
conscious of all of your surroundings. In all aspects
of your life, from work to family to relationships,
be aware of what you are actually feeling, including
both negative and positive aspects. Write down what
the feeling comprises. When a new activity, or project
surfaces, make a note of where it takes you mentally
and spiritually. When you encounter new people in
public, try smiling at them for starters. If the
response is good, really look at what the situation
is – and if the person seems
open to it, perhaps make a comment about something
that is happening around you; or ask for some type
of information.
3.
Try to be Fearless – Every time you find
that you must make a decision, see if you can decide
whether that decision’s origin is from fear or
intuition. Because fear is far more judgmental and
motivated by doubt, intuition, in its purity, is less
negative, more supportive and calming. If you focus
on making decisions based on how you truly feel, rather
than what fear may warrant, you will experience less
doubt about your abilities – particularly
those that deal with meeting new people. If you make
a concerted effort to try the tactics above, you may
find that it is much easier to begin to allow new acquaintances
into your life.
The
above are just some of the ways that we can use to
begin to find a road into how to better use intuition
to develop new friendships. In fact, just by being
aware of the possibilities, a whole new social chapter
of a life can begin.
There
are basic techniques that can be learned from brain
enhancement researchers that can help us use the
power of the subconscious mind. If we were to fully
utilize what our subconscious minds offer, there
is a chance that we could greatly increase our mental
capabilities. By paying more attention to our hunches,
we can use otherwise untapped resources, for betterment
in many parts of our lives, including and especially,
our personal relationships. For example, the next
time a situation arises where you have the chance
to act on your intuition in terms of meeting someone
new, try it and see what happens. You never know – it
may help to find some really
worthwhile new friends.
Susan
S. Davis is a published book author
and writer, currently doing research for a romantic
screenplay she is writing. Her Dating
From The Inside Out column
is published every Tuesday.
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