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by Kim Lance,
associate publisher of Online Dating Magazine
Find Stronger
Connections Through Old Memories
In the beginning of a relationship, you
remember everything about your experiences with your
partner. You can recall the first thing he ever said
to you or the romantic movie you first held hands during.
Every event makes such an impact, making every memory
very strong and current in your mind. The longer you
continue with a loving relationship, the more memories
you begin to develop together.
While you are so lucky when you have a partner that
you can create hundreds of happy memories with, unfortunately
the human brain can only actively take on so much information.
So…our memories often get stored away in the
nooks and crannies of our mind, sometimes forgotten
for a long time. Often, the longer you are in a relationship,
the more memories slip away from you.
But don’t worry,
there are several ways to bring those long-forgotten
memories back out into the open to enjoy and bring
you two closer together. The great thing about memories
is that the littlest thing can bring them back into
the forefront of your mind. If you and your partner
have been in a relationship for a long time, it is
important to not let go of all of the events, conversations,
and dates that brought you so close together in the
first place. They are a very important part of your
relationship and need to continue to be cherished.
One good way to bring back all the old memories is
to make a night out of it. Plan an evening with your
partner where you will purposely plan on digging up
all of those old memories. Here are a few ways you
can organize your evening.
Great Conversation Over Dinner
Plan your favorite meal with the idea in mind that
your evening will be focused on remembering a lot
of the wonderful experiences that you have had as
a couple. You can start the evening off with dinner
at home or a nice quiet restaurant. Someplace where
you can comfortably talk with one another without
having to shout over the crowd. Try to focus your
conversation during dinner on some of your wonderful
memories like the first time you met, your first
date, and when each of you knew you loved the other.
As conversation gets more interesting, you will start
to remember more and more and, most likely, won't
want the conversation to end.
Walk Down Memory Lane
Really make it a walk down memory lane by taking a
stroll together after dinner, still engaging in conversation
about the hundreds of fun, happy, and positive experiences
you have shared. You can even make up a game for
the two of you to play to spark even more memories.
Quiz each other on details of past dates and important
events (just promise not to get mad if your partner
doesn't remember some of the things that you do).
See if he knows the color roses he gave you for your
first anniversary or see if she remembers what cologne
you wore on your first few dates. It can be a fun
challenge and really stretch your mind to remember
how much fun you have had together during your relationship.
Photos Can Spark Memories
When you return home, pull out your old photo albums
(or create a slideshow of digital photos on your
computer) and try and remember the circumstances
associated with each photo. You can take it a step
further with old memorabilia, letters or your personal
diaries of that time. You will be amazed how much
you had stored in the back of your mind that some
photos can bring out!
A very important part of every relationship is the
plethora of happy memories that partners shape and
share between the two of them. Don’t let those
memories become just a part of the past; bring them
back to life by actively trying to remember them and,
for those you don’t remember on your own, going
through old photos and memorabilia to bring those memories
back. As you and your partner share a laugh and warm
feelings because of theses happy memories, you will
be glad you took the time to dust off your old scrapbooks
and diaries. You and your partner will not only reconnect
the memories in your own minds, but also reconnect
with the feelings you had during the early stages of
your relationship and, in turn, form a deeper connection
with each other.
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