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A Better You
by Jo Ann
Fore
Lonely,
Beautiful People
I’m
not a big talk-show fan. However, the other night
I was flipping channels, and an interview caught
my attention. It was Ryan Seacrest and Tyra Banks
on E! Each enough in their own right to catch your
eye; both are very beautiful people.
Ryan
was interviewing Tyra over dinner. He made a comment
that a lot of guys probably don’t know what to do with her
when they attempt to date her. Do they call, do
they not call? She confessed, “They don’t
know I’m looking at the phone all day going, ‘You
gonna call me?’” She shared with Ryan
how hard it was to meet someone.
If
Tyra Banks is having a hard time meeting someone
special – do
we even have a chance?
Isn’t
that the way most people think? People have a tendency
to believe that attractive singles have it made. People
seem to think a beautiful person always has a date,
is alone only by choice, and has no relationship problems.
Yet many highly attractive, intelligent, and stable
singles are crying out – like Tyra – “You
gonna call me?”
What
keeps people from approaching these gems? It’s simple: The fear of rejection.
What about you – when you see a beautiful person
you are attracted to, do you approach them and initiate
a conversation? Or do you hear that inner voice that
says:
» “They probably already have a
partner.”
» “They’ll probably
just say ‘no’ anyway.”
» “I’ll
look foolish.”
» “They probably
don’t even know I exist.”
» “I
won’t know what to say.”
Terrified
you will mess up, do you just walk away? You may
have missed out on a great chance to make a new friend.
That
beautiful girl, or striking man, is most likely someone
like you – who longs to make a connection with the
right person. When did society place stunning people
in a separate league? No wonder they are statistically
some of the loneliest people on the planet.
Even
if you’re ‘Joe Average’, you can equip
yourself for the challenge of meeting a person of beauty.
If you have a solid foundation, you have a lot to offer.
The majority of men and women need more than extreme
beauty to maintain a relationship. Some of the most
critical aspects you can bring to the relationship
are:
» Character:
Are you a person of positive features and traits?
» Honesty:
Are you upright, fair, and truthful? Are you free
from deceit?
» Integrity:
Do you adhere to moral and ethical principles? Are
you fair?
» Ambition:
Do you have an earnest desire to achieve something
greater in life?
» Levity:
Do you have a sense of humor? Are you light-hearted?
» Credibility:
Are you worthy of being believed?
» Trust:
Can you confidently be relied on?
» Faithfulness:
Are you true to your promises?
» Compassion:
Do you feel sympathy for the misfortunate?
Preparation
to meet this beautiful person began long before you
ran into her or him. Take stock in who you are as a
person. This is the ammunition that quiets the inner
voice of fear when opportunity presents itself to meet
someone new.
Also,
one of the greatest things you can offer someone – regardless of their looks – is
a listening ear. Who doesn’t like attention?
» Don’t
make it all about you.
» Don’t worry
so much about what the person’s reply is going
to be.
» Introduce
yourself, and take the time to find out more about
the other person.
» Don’t
judge them by their appearance; you have to get to
know the person inside.
» The
only way to do that is to strike up a conversation.
Remember,
we’ve
all been thrown on this huge planet together. Beautiful,
attractive, or average people — most of us like
to have fun and meet new people. Don’t let fear
hold you back. So, you gonna call, or what?!
Jo
Ann Fore welcomes your comments about this article or suggestions
for material you would like to see in future articles.
Email her at: JoAnnFore@msn.com. A
Better You is published every Saturday.
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