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Book Review:
Sex with Your Ex and 69 Other Things You Should Never Do Again…plus a few that you should
Review by Dr. James Houran, Relationship Expert for Online Dating Magazine

Author: Yvonne K. Fulbright

Online Dating Magazine Rating: 8.5/10

Sex with Your Ex Review:
Dr. Yvonne Fulbright – a well respected sexuality expert – never fails to make me smile with her books and academic writings. Therefore, you can imagine my excitement to receive recently a new book of hers to review. I have said many times that I am no fan of “self-help” books, but I have come to expect content of high standard from Yvonne. As a result, I read this book with an open mind (which isn’t difficult to do when the word “sex” is in the title!) Two hundred and eleven pages later, I found myself thoroughly entertained and even educated. Sex with Your Ex… is a smooth, intelligent but highly readable journey into the “do’s” and “don’ts” of intimate relationship patterns that’s sure to help many people who feel stuck in their old habits or who are trying to learn the nuances of nurturing a romantic relationship.

What a reader gets for their money (USD $12.95) is a bargain: a wealth of pragmatic guidance of sound clinical judgment when it comes to addressing sensitive issues like self-esteem, sexuality and serious or fatal relationship mistakes. Sprinkled throughout the 70 topics are short, real life stories to help illustrate the dilemmas broached in the book, as well as the points that Yvonne makes to address those issues and conflicts. As a fellow academic, I could tell where her advice and arguments drew from scientific studies and her own clinical acumen, but the reader doesn’t see any citations or references. That’s a shame and a drawback in my opinion, but I can sympathize with her logic – lay audiences simply want the material, not the supporting documentation. Of course, most self-help books seem not to have used any credible supporting material. This is why I really would’ve liked to have seen a real bibliography; its inclusion would’ve differentiated this book from other works with questionable authority.

Careful and insightful readers will see that a running theme throughout the book is the traditional Eastern philosophical notion that opportunities and positive outcomes can be found in almost any crisis or conflict. Yvonne masterfully educates readers on how to turn undesirable situations around to create growth opportunities for a couple. Therefore, this book certainly takes a piercing look at a number of fun, embarrassing and sobering situations related to intimate relationships, but the value of Yvonne’s book goes well beyond those specific scenarios. She imparts on her readers a healthy mindset for building up a couple rather than encouraging couples to see their differences and disagreements as inherently adversarial situations.

The production quality of the book is superb. It’s an attractive and well designed book, and the size is atypically compact. This is a book that you can easily take with you virtually anywhere. And you may just want to. I’ve read and reread Sex with Your Ex… many times now just to see what new information, insights and subtleties I could discover. So far, I’ve not been disappointed. I guess that just goes to show that big things can come in small packages. Highly recommended!

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