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Your Love Real?
Is it Love or Lust?
How to Know
if Your Love is Real
You've met someone great online.
The two of you seem to have hit it off and memories are
building with each
passing day. But how do you know if it is truly love
that will last or if your feelings and the relationship
are just a temporary attraction?
In a lifetime, the average person falls in love at
least four times. But is it really love? Here are the
communication, love, and respect signs to be aware
of before you decide if the one you're dating is the
right
one
for
you:
I. Communication
Being honest with each other in a relationship is very
important and it is also important that you get to
know the person properly before you commit yourself.
How well do you know each other? Is the only talking
you do bedroom talk?
Good Signs:
» You talk openly about life issues such
as finances, children, things that frighten you,
and each other's ambitions in life.
» You can argue
and come to some sort of compromise at the
end of it.
» You are open and honest with each other about
your feelings.
Warning Signs:
» You only
know his favorite color and what paper he reads.
You are afraid to ask him in-depth questions about
his life for fear of rejection or for fear of
what you might find out.
» You
don’t discuss
how you are feeling with each other and the frustration
builds
up in each
of you,
often causing you to resent each other.
» Neither
of you is willing to forgive the other.
II. Love
A long lasting relationship/marriage can rarely survive without love. So is it
love or are you just kidding yourself?
Good Signs:
» In a crisis you stand by each
other no matter what the result.
» You make sacrifices
to make the
other person happy.
» You
are truthful and honest and don’t keep secrets
from one another.
» You are
emotionally, physically, and mentally compatible.
» You are friends as well as lovers.
Warning Signs:
» When the going gets tough,
your partner gets going.
» Your partner has an eye for
members of the opposite sex and has proved
to
be
untrustworthy.
» Your partner lies to you about where he/she has
been and only confesses when you find out the truth.
» There is little physical affection,
laughter, or communication between the two of you.
» Your has been
unfaithful on numerous occasions.
III.
Respect
A relationship is about friendship, respect, and acceptance of one another. When
there is lack of respect for the other trust and respect is replaced by suspicion
and can slowly grow to hatred.
Good Signs:
» You
are aware of your partner’s
faults and are able to accept some
imperfections.
» You
support and encourage each other’s individual
interests and
identity.
» You
take the time to listen and understand the other’s
point opinion.
Warning Signs:
» You criticize each other
in front of others.
» Your partner will not give
you space to indulge
in your interests and wants to spend every minute
of the day
with you.
» You are constantly struggling to live up
to your partner's standards or the person you think
your partner wants you to be.
» You
can’t forgive
and/or forget each other’s
mistakes.
Be aware and objective about your relationship. If
you can't nurture it, then it may be time to leave.
If it's strong, then building upon mutual love, respect,
and communication will only make it stronger.
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