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How to Break Up:
10 Ways to Break Up Graciously
Whether
it's you or your partner who decides to end your relationship,
it's not easy to break up. Nobody
enjoys breaking up, but sometimes it has to be done.
Here are 10 tips on how to break up graciously:
1. Don't
drag it out.
When it is over, it's over. You're
not doing your partner or yourself any favors
by delaying the inevitable. Sooner is better than later.
2.
Be honest.
The oldest line is "it’s
me not you." Although this might be easier, the
only way you can truly help your partner is by being
completely honest.
3. Don't overlap.
The worst thing
you can do is start seeing someone else before you
tell your partner that
it is over. It not only makes you look bad, but will
also plant seeds of doubt in your new partner.
4.
Can we be friends?
Don't expect to be friends after
a break up. Even if you were friends before
you became intimate, your friendship likely can
never be
the same again.
5. Listen.
Don’t
expect to end the relationship with your partner
wanting to leave it at that, especially
if it has come out the blue. Your partner will want
to ask questions and may even try and talk you into
changing your mind. Allow your partner to have his/her
say. This will give you the chance to explain in full
why you want to end the relationship. Think about how
you would feel if you where the one being dumped. You
would want to ask questions.
6. Don't do it in a public place.
Even if you no
longer like your partner, the worse thing you can do
is dump him/her in a public place. It is the ultimate
humiliation.
7. Write down how you feel.
Ending it face to face
can be very difficult. Write a letter explaining why
you want to break up. But deliver it in person, and
be there to talk with your partner afterwards.
8. Don't feel guilty.
More
often than not when we try to end a relationship
we are made to feel guilty
by the other, which makes us stay and hate the person
more. If you want out, then no matter how much your
partner begs ("I’ll change," "I’ve
done so much for you"), stick to your decision
before things get worse.
9. Don't pick a fight.
The
only reason we pick a fight is to ease the guilt
that we bring upon our partner
when he/she thinks it is his/her fault. Get straight
to the point and don’t make your partner suffer
more than necessary.
10. Leave as you would like to be left.
Being dumped
is a horrible thing. Try to think about how you would
want to be dumped if the tables were turned. Do unto
others as you would have them do unto you.
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» Dealing with a Breakup
» Breaking
it Off
» Dealing
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