When a relationship ends, we tend to wonder where it all went wrong. Were there any warning signs that he lost interest? The answer is YES. But we tend to be so wrapped up in the relationship, or with other things, that we don’t even see it coming. Here are eight warning signs he is no longer interested… or maybe these are how you are acting. Either way it is time to take a closer look at your relationship and decide whether it’s still worth the investment.
Warning Sign #1: He hasn’t called you for a few days
This isn’t necessarily a sign that it is over, but if you are use to him calling frequently and suddenly the calls stop, then there could be something wrong.
Warning Sign #2: Picking fights
Does he fly off the handle more than usual? Is he causing arguments over stupid little things? This is often a bad case when people are no longer interested in a relationship but they don’t want to be the one to end it. Don’t beat about the bush. Ask him out right if he is no longer interested in the relationship.
Warning Sign #3: He’s being secretive
He no longer wants to tell you where he has been or who was on the phone. Maybe the phone is off limits to you. He might disappear for hours without an explanation.
Warning Sign #4: He no longer refers to “we” but “I”
You used to sit and plan your future together; “We are going to do this, we are going to do that.” Now it is, “I am going to do this.” You are no longer included in his future.
Warning Sign #5: He’d rather spend time with his friends than you
You have to fight with his friends for his attention. Before you were most important in his life. Now his friends are more important than you.
Warning Sign #6: You no longer talk
Once upon a time you would sit and have discussions about everything from the weather to what is happening to the ozone. Now he just answers everything with a “yes.” You no longer have deep or philosophical discussions.
Warning Sign #7: Friends start asking what’s wrong
Friends begin to notice tension or distance between you. They start asking if everything’s “all right.”
Warning Sign #8: He’s more critical of you
“That’s a horrible dress,” he says. Yet he helped you pick it out only a few weeks ago.
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Remember that these are only warning signs and, in fact, your relationship may just be going through a rough patch. If you really value the relationship, then talk to each other first before you do anything you may regret. If you feel your relationship is worth salvaging then fight for it!
Many of these signs also apply in reverse gender roles (or same sex gender roles). When a woman is about to break up with you, she may exhibit many of the same signs as the eight above. In addition, she may start showing more interest in your friends (than you) when you hang out, take longer to respond to your texts, and be less affectionate in public.
What are some warning signs you’ve seen? Post them in the Comments section at the end of this page.
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(Editor’s note: This article was originally published in 2007 and updated in 2015)